Anyone check their dc's bebo ?

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My dd age 10 just logged off and obviously didn't want to look at her page.

I've told her before that she's only allowed to have a page on there if I'm allowed to check it now and then.
I think this is ok as she is only 10.

Thing is I caught a glance at her cousin's page who is 12, saw one of those quiz things they do but this one was have you had sex, do give blowjobs ,stuff like that.

I'm like wtf??

I'm not freaking for no reason right?

DD age 12 does not want me to ccheck hers anymore.

What do you lot do?

my dcs are teens, have facebook, i look at theirs (as much as I can) when i look at mine.

those quizzes are truly dreadful, completely unpoliced imo.

Didn't want me to check I mean.

Thought you had to be 13 for Bebo?

DD1 always leaves her facebook logged on on my laptop... I tend to have a quick browse to check that all is in order.

don't let them have a bebo page. You're meant ot be 13

Yes you are supposed to be 13 but you can have one with parents permission .

Her page is private and only friends can send her messages.

It's too late not to let her have one she has it already.

I would say "Either you let me read it so that I can make sure all is ok - or you wont be able to be on bebo anymore"

They are 10 and 12 - both too young to be on bebo, especially unsupervised, you are their mum - if you are not happy about what they are up to, tell them so and tell them it has to stop

you can have oine with parents permission? Is that a recent thing because ut certianly never used to be the case.

If they'r enot prepared to let you see it, I'd tell them they're not allowed one. I think a lot of p\rents are far too soft about web sites etc.

From Bebo website - "You must be 13 years or older to use the Bebo Service. By registering for the Bebo Service, you represent and warrant that you are 13 or older " Nothing mentioned there about parents permission!

ok ,well they have a page and so do thousands of others , so now I have to decide what to do about it.

Well, I think you have to retain the right as a parent to look at it - if they won't "let you" then it would be reasonable to not let them have it. The site is not intended to be suitable for that age group, so you have a responsibility to make sure what they are doing is appropriate.

DS is 15 now, but if I was concerned what he was doing on it then I would insist on seeing his page.

They have never done anything inappropriate themselves, I have always checked and all of the stuff they or their friends have on there is quite innocent, but this quiz thing has shown me what they can be bombarded with .
I have no control on what another child puts on their page and which they can then look at.
I shall have to have a rethink on the whole thing really.

I do all the time and if there are any "unsavories" on there I remove them!

BTW He is 14.

But I can't remove an unsavory from someone elses page unfortunatly.
Glad to hear you that it's ok to check as they get older too.

rethink, rethink!

If they area still young enough for you to control with whom they spend their RL time (so that's under 16, I reckon), then they are still young enough for you to supervise their online relationships.

They might not like it, but if it's a choice between no networking or netwroking under supervision then surely they;ll submit?

I recono half the time they fill these things in and either lie or don't know what the hwll half of it means. My mate still checks her daughters page and shes 19! Leaves comments too which I think is a bit off TBH.

Not being nosey, want to keep my eye on him re. bullies and peodophiles.