DD has always been a little bit shy and timid when it comes to interacting with people she doen;t know that well.
She's not painfully shy but she does hate anything that creates a fuss or puts her in the spotlight. (She once spent a whole day at school with a fever and sore throat as she didn't want to tell the supply teacher she felt unwell).
However, this is starting to make her miserable.
For instance, they have been put in to groups for an IT prjoect, taking photos to depict bullying. She is crying at the moment because the kids in her group messed around for the whole lesson today and all the photos they took were of them pulling faces. She is now worried they will all get in to trouble for not getting it done. She won't speak up to the kids or the teacher for fear of being ridiculed. (I'm sure she's no angel BTW and I know she has her moments of messing around when she's with her friends).
I have explained this is all part of trying to get on with other people and working as part of a team.
The problem is, once she gets in this kind of head space, she becomes totally negative and has a reason why every suggestion you make won't work. She has been like this on and off ever since she started school.
I am not the type of parent who wades in and goes to the teacher for every little thing - I would much rather help her find the skills to sort these things out for herself.
Help!!!!! Do you think some people are 'natural born worriers'? She is very similar to my MIL who is anxious and worried about almost everything. I have tried very hard to show DD that this is not a constructive behaviour. And what's weird is, get her on the football pitch or doing something she is ggod at and you would think she'd had a personality transplant!!! (I know it's not that weird, it's her comfort zone but honestly she couldn't be more different than she is at this moment!)
Sorry it's long - thanks if you read this far!