what do i need?

[ilovetochat]

do i need potty, step and toilet seat and what is a potty chair?
do i start by leaving dd in nappies but slowly intro potty and let her try or do i just put her in pants or pull ups?
She knows when she wees and poos, pulls at her nappy when its dirty and says potty (we have read a book)

You can go straight to the toilet with a seat but a potty is a good start. I would progress to the toilet asap so they don't get too used to the potty.

If she is ready then go straight to pants.

Don't leave her in nappies. That's too confusing. Potty training pants are too confusing too, imo - best to put her into knickers. She'll feel it more if she wets than she would otherwise.

All you need to start with is a potty, unless you're going straight to using the toilet. In which case you'll need a step and probably a trainer seat for the toilet.

How old is she? It helps if she's old enough to pull her own knickers/trousers up and down - otherwise it will be hard for her to do it all herself.

she is 16 months, walks very well but toilet is upstairs so would need a potty for downstairs, she can pull her trousers down but not quickly. thats why i thought a gentle intro of seeing the potty around and sit her on it morn and night and after lunch, dinner. after breakfast i tell her to poo and she does so i think that one would be easy to catch (not literally )

we did the gentle approach and used pull up nappies (so it didnt matter if there is an accident) and got ds gradually used to the big toilet - we never used a toilet seat. He only pees in the potty if he is standing and you hold the potty up to his willy. When he got competent at letting me know he needed a pee/poo then I started letting him wear pants while in the house and pull up when out. In th last 3 days he has worn pants when I am out and I take spare clothes/pants with me.

16 months is ever so young for potty training. I'm not saying it's not possible, but it may just be too early for her to recognise that she needs a wee and react to it. No harm in keeping the potty around at the moment. You might just be expecting a lot of her if you expect her to use it easily for a while.

Catching the poo in the potty isn't quite the same thing as potty training - elimination communication is what I think they call that. Lots of people swear by that rather than by potty training.

IME 16 months isn't too young. My daughter was asking to wear pants at 17 months and it was my fault that she didn't get it straight away. I am sure she would have done if I had been doing a better job.

thenewme - how did she get it in the end?
Shitehawk - it may be a bit early, i know most things i've looked at say at least 18 months but i thought as she is very aware of her wees and poos at the moment i might as well give it a go. Originally i thought about starting maybe april may next year when its a bit warmer.

She was in pants before 2 and it took 3 tries but tbh that was my fault. I wasn't very well, I was heavily pregnant and tbh I didn't think she could be ready as she was so young. Sometimes children just know and remember, they don't read the books to see what age they are meant to be doing things!

tried her on the toilet today and she cried so definitely need to get potty, she pood this morn when i told her to and then pulled at her nappy to get it off, every nappy change she has not wanted her nappy back on, keeps saying no nappy and pulling it back off, don't know if it's just a new phase or she really wants no nappies.

Patience

where can i buy some of that Ani, i seem to be running low at the moment,

my ds didnt want to sit on the toilet the first few times so I just left it a few days and then tried him again until he was happy to sit for a minute or so. If they get their legs wide enough they can sit on the seat quite comfortably without feeling that they are going to fall in.

I agree that 16 months is very young, and to crack it at this age would be the exception. If you can do it, great - my tip is a roll of kitchen towel in every room.

If not, then be prepared to leave it and come back to it in another 6 months. DD1 was walking at 10 months and I suspect I attempted to potty train her around a similar age. I gave up very quickly. You know when you're fighting a losing battle

I have a 16 month old and although she points to her nappy when she's pooed, I wouldn't dream of even contemplating potty training her now. oh no no no! But then, she's not even walking yet

a toilet seat with handles is helpful too.

i'm in no rush but equally i don't want to hold her back if she is keen, a few friends have 3 year olds in nappies and say they wish they had started early as they feel they missed the chance when dc became aware of poos/wees.