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Should ds's "big" present come from us or Father Christmas?

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Minkus · 18/11/2008 08:51

Who gets the "glory"- his mum and dad or a pretend person? We don't need him to think it comes from us in order for us to feel like we're showing him how much we love him, if that makes sense.

So, FC or parents?

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MrsBadger · 18/11/2008 08:52

you

FC only does the stockings in this house

SazzlesA · 18/11/2008 08:56

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lucykate · 18/11/2008 08:57

in our house, big presents come from us, fc's budget is about £10.

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Minkus · 18/11/2008 08:57

So just the little treat-y things from fc? good thinking.

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MummyDoIt · 18/11/2008 09:03

We're the same. Stockings are from Santa, everything else is piled under the tree and the giver gets the credit. I think this is really important as they need to write thank you letters (or at least say thank you if they're too young to write).

Anna8888 · 18/11/2008 09:04

Father Christmas only does stockings with little presents in our family.

vesela · 18/11/2008 14:48

We live in the Czech Republic so we're going to have to divide things up three ways - between Jezisek (Baby Jesus, like Christkind in Germany), Father Christmas and us.

I'm determined that the main present(s) should come from us & the rest of the family, although DD is only 20 months so she probably won't have much clue.

Jezisek comes on Christmas Eve in the evening, Father Christmas overnight, obviously, and family presents we'll do on Christmas Day in the afternoon as we usually do in my family (who'll be staying with us).

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Minkus · 18/11/2008 15:34

Wow vesela, your lucky dd- 3 lots of pressies!

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AnneOfAvonlea · 18/11/2008 15:38

FC does stocking and 1 big present. Mum and Dad do 1 or 2 smaller presents.

Twims · 18/11/2008 15:38

You FC only does stockings

FromGirders · 18/11/2008 15:40

We decided (after much MN research) that FC shouldn't bring anything other than stockings, because if he brings big stuff, what's to stop dcs for asking for something really expensive / unobtainable / that I don't approve of / a pony!

OrmIrian · 18/11/2008 15:46

You.

Unless FC is also going to pay for it. Lazy free-loading swine! He does stocking only.

TsarChasm · 18/11/2008 15:51

Same as MrsB here too. Big present from us, stocking fron FC.

PortBlacksandResident · 18/11/2008 15:53

Everything comes from FC here. DSs always amazed how he gets the bigger stuff down the chimney. The problem FromGirders mentions hasn't been a problem (yet) - last year DS1 asked for a diary and a three way plug adaptor (he was 6 btw).

Aimsmum · 18/11/2008 15:57

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slng · 18/11/2008 19:41

When confronted with a toy from a friend of mine last year, DS1 solved the problem himself by concluding that my friend gave the toy to FC to bring to him.

thisisyesterday · 18/11/2008 19:43

all of the presents in our house come from the giver.

apostrophe · 18/11/2008 19:45

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cookinmama · 18/11/2008 19:49

I agree with the other posters, in our house FC brings stocking and 1 big gift and leaves a bill for us to pay (gets round the 'so and so got an xbox' moans)

MrsTittleMouse · 18/11/2008 19:51

You - otherwise you end up with difficulties explaining why they can't have something that a friend has, even though they have been just as good.

artichokes · 18/11/2008 19:52

It never even occured to me that parents give presents at christmas. As a child FC brought me everything.

bodiddly · 18/11/2008 19:53

I do stocking from FC and main present from us .. but he isn't even 4 yet so he is a bit too young to understand the complexities of who does what. How do you explain that FC only buys small things when they usually ask for big things in their christmas letters?

Seona1973 · 18/11/2008 20:04

we have always done it as practically all presents from FC unless it is from family, friends i.e. whatever we ourselves buy will be from FC with only a couple of small gifts from us - they were always from FC when I was young so that is the way we have done it too.

ImaburningHEIFERgy · 18/11/2008 20:24

I think I told DD (4) last year that Father Christmas brought it but I had to pay for it...

This I think was in response to her question what did Mummy and Daddy give me for Christmas if Father Christmas gave me all the presents....

I think this happened, but I could have dreamed it.. Do you know what I mean when I am not 100% this actually happened? or it is just me...

or I could have told her (as this is what I would have done now) is that the main present was from FC but the others from us....

So basically a total waste of time me replying to this thread as I have no idea...

singyswife · 18/11/2008 20:28

FC gives everything in this house. Has never occured to me that I should be giving presnts too. I have been questioned a few times about 'why does x get more than me, or why does y get presnts from mum and dad too' but my answer is always that fc only gives as much as he feels the child needs and he has a different budget for every house. That normally does it.