DD 3.9 keeps wetting herself, please give me some advise before I go mad.

[samsonthecat]

DD1 3.9 has been potty trained since she was 2.6. She was dry for months then about February time she started wetting her pants, not a full accident but enough to have to change her clothes. Some days she doesn't do it at all and other days she goes through 3/4 pairs of pants and trousers.
I have tried everything I can think of to stop her doing it but now I am hoping some one on here can give me some more ideas. I was hoping that she would grow out of it but she really doesn't seem to mind being wet and not change her clothes unless someone notices.
Help

sorry no advice but bumping for you as couldn't not reply. Am sure someone with v good advice will be along soon!

Anyone got any good advice for me?

make sure that she doesnt have a wee infection by taking to doctors

then when does she have accidents mainly

at nursery/home/playing?

maybe she gets so invloved that you need to remind her every hour to go for a wee for a few weeks to get her back into re training her

hth

Thankyou, I am taking her to the doctor this pm. I spoke to the health visitor this am who was about as much use as a chocolate teapot. If its nothing medical I will have to do as you suggest and retrain her I think.

I potty trained my daughter very quickly and after a few months she started to wet herself. I was very patient and did not tell her off (as all advice by experts suggest)... so then she started doing it more.

I did then notice that she ONLY ever did it at home or grandparents house where she knew she could put on clean clothes. Somedays we'd be out with no access to toilet and she'd hold it for hours without any accidents.

So what I did was (maybe rather cruelly but it worked) made her stay in her wet clothes, if she came near me for a cuddle I would say no you are all wet.

She didnt do it ever again.

I think for me I knew that she completely understood that she should always use the toilet, was 100% able to control her bladder (even at night), and that really she was just being lazy.
If she had accidents because she couldn't control her bladder and did it away from home then I would not have been so harsh.

good point hungaryhorse - thats why i wondered where sam dd wet herself?

ie is it lazyness or too engrossed in play etc

though your method worked, sam said that her dd didnt seem to mind being in wet clothes (as did myex charge)

once you have rules out infection,and it turns out it is lazyness, maybe bribery for dry pants and a sticker each day will work

and when have 7 stickers a small gift?

my dd is 6 and has started doing this again. Last time this happened back in feb and march, a sticker chart worked really well.

i know my dd's is down to emotional crap thu.