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Quick straw poll.....please read

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alexsmum · 14/03/2005 22:29

I have to make a decision by tomorrow on whether or not to give my son the mmr jab.
My gut instinct is not to.His father wants him to have it.

SO ...what do you think?

yes or no?

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nutcracker · 14/03/2005 22:49

Yes

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SenoraPostrophe · 14/03/2005 22:50

Unless there is autism/aspergers in your family, yes.

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zenia · 14/03/2005 22:52

Difficult one, there is mumps at my ds school at the mo, and I was worried he may have it (swollen glands and complaining of pains down below) I gave him his 1st mmr, (he is allergic to egg )the jab is grown in egg, so my doc advised me not to give him his booster as he is more likely to react from the egg than be the 1 in 10 that it doesn't work for 1st time round (hope this makes sense!)

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whatsername · 14/03/2005 22:54

Alexsmum, if you're not sure could you not still delay the appointment? It really is an important decision and not one which should be rushed.

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Jimjams · 14/03/2005 22:54

agree about the temperature. DS1 (immnised with single measles) had it quite bad- knocked him out for a week, ds2 (not immunised at all) had a mild version- he missed a day of nursery.

Also agree with lockets- completely up to you. DS1 is vaccine damaged so the others haven't had anything, but that's completely irrelevent to your family. Likewise the fact that lots of strangers posting on here gave MMR to their kids "and they're fine" is completely irrelevent to me- doesn't make ds1 any less damaged.

Sorry but it something you have to decide for yourself. And to be honest in this case its something that I think the main carer has the most say in because if whichever decision is taken "goes wrong" (iyswim) then the main carer is the one who has to live with the consequences.

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Jimjams · 14/03/2005 22:58

Having autism/As in the family isn't really the risk factor as far as vax goes - having lots of autoimmunity in the family is.

Also I would recomend delaying if there's been recent chickenpox/ other childhood type illness exposure- just to be extra cautious.

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lockets · 14/03/2005 23:08

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Caligula · 14/03/2005 23:09

No. You obviously don't want to. I agree with those who said you shouldn't make this decision based on a straw poll. You can postpone tomorrow and always change your mind later - why don't you use the extra time to do some more research so that you can either set your mind at rest and go and get it done at a later date, or decide that you definitely don't want it done at all?

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JoolsToo · 14/03/2005 23:09

yes (although I still think you should get singles if you want!)

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Tinker · 14/03/2005 23:09

I did.

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WestCountryLass · 14/03/2005 23:17

Yes, if he has no allergies/family history.

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Arabica · 14/03/2005 23:17

DS hasn't had it.

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alexsmum · 14/03/2005 23:33

Please don't think that I am basing my decision purely on this poll! This a last minute, 'see what other people think' thing.We have been agonising ,arguing, discussing,researching this decision for months now.

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lockets · 14/03/2005 23:38

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Eaney · 14/03/2005 23:39

My boy didn't have it - severe egg allergy. He got measles when he was 2. It was not very pleasant. He was very sick but he got through it and I suppose he has lifelong immunity now.

It is probably the hardest decision any parent has to make in the end you have to go with your gut.

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maisystar · 14/03/2005 23:40

yes

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alexsmum · 14/03/2005 23:41

it really is lockets.so hard.

If he had gone along to the baby clinic at 8 weeks ,had his jabs and gone on to have all the rest with no problem , i would just go ahead.But it hasn't been like that at all, and to be quite frank, i'm scared witless.
He obviously is predisposed to react, so what if....basically what if? know what i mean?

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maisystar · 14/03/2005 23:42

wasn't saying yes you should, was saying yes i did

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Ags · 14/03/2005 23:46

Really feel for you alexsmum. Will be thinking of you tomorrow and hope all is well whatever you decide.

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lockets · 14/03/2005 23:49

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MunchedTooManyMarsLady · 14/03/2005 23:58

Thinking of you Alexsmum. The DTs had their mmr about 10 days ago. This should be about the time that they show any reactions. All well atm. It's not easy, especially at the moment, but I have to say go with your gut. Better to be wrong than right in this case. Do get him immunised though be it single jabs or multiple.

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CountessDracula · 15/03/2005 00:46

hang on why are you rushing into this? You don't need to decide by tomorrow - a little delay won't hurt.

Do you have any reasons eg family history of autoimmune stuff not to give the mmr?

If so then I would (and did) go for singles

Up to you though, not something other people can decide for you

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bobbybob · 15/03/2005 00:52

You don't have to decide by tomorrow. How old is your ds?

Is having singles a compromise?

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AussieSim · 15/03/2005 03:28

I did but, only when DS was 16mo. I think the older they are the better. I wouldn't rush to do it dead on 12mo.

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Beetroot · 15/03/2005 07:26

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