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Serious guilt over DS while coping with pregnancy

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mrsgboring · 12/11/2008 10:10

I am sick and tired with this pregnancy. Am 15 weeks now and the nausea is currently worse than ever. I find myself completely incapacitated by it and DS is having to fend for himself quite a lot. I'm particularly wimpish about pregnancy - I know a lot of people cope with much worse, but I lost my first child at full term so it's an anxious time as well.

I still manage to take him out, keep him clothed and clean (ish). He gets three meals a day and healthy(ish) snacks, but the meals are of variable quality and lack variety.

More than anything, he spends a lot of time playing on his own and/or watching TV because I just cannot cope with interacting with him - talking, moving about, fiddling with lego etc. makes me feel ill, so I hide in the next room MNing, lying down or eating things that keep the nausea at bay.

Since 10 weeks I've taken him out to all his normal activities, and since 12 weeks I generally can manage to sit with him and even eat when he has his meals, but I'm just so sad for him. I see DH playing with him, reading to him, singing, just being with him and watchcing him, and it reminds me of all the things I used to do and now do so much less often.

He is (we hope - place not confirmed!) going to preschool in Jan (he's 3) but will take a while to settle I think, so I have to have the energy to make that one work.

I don't know what I'm hoping to gain by this message TBH. Just need a confessional I suppose.

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Pinkjenny · 13/11/2008 13:57

itcanwait - I have answered your CHD thread in children's health.

sweetgrapes · 13/11/2008 14:26

Mrsgboring, think of it this way - you're teaching him independance and to play by himself without you.

Don't worry - he'll be fine.

grumblingirl · 13/11/2008 14:36

Mrsg - don't worry I had HG and my ds1 had 9 months of fending for himself. He hasn't called me a toxic parent...yet. It was a bit heartbreaking though when he arrived at hospital to see his new baby brother and he hopefully asked 'Are you not sick anymore Mummy?'

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christiana · 13/11/2008 21:11

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