Does your 15 month old do as told?

[mamakim]

For example my ds keeps opening the shutters. I tell him no and move him away, he goes back and does it again. He'll do this 100 times. With everything. Distraction doesn't work. He's already throwing tantrums several times a day. When will he start listening to me? Ever?

Not until he's about 4

It depends, sometimes he does, sometimes he doesn't. I successfully taught him not to pull all the cds out of our cd rack by saying NO! loudly and sharply and by pulling his hand away from them. Eventually he got the message, but it took three days of doing it almost every ten mins! Now he just looks longingly at them, and when I call him away from them and say good boy, he claps Bless him!

If I'm stern enough with my voice and I give him a serious look he will sometimes do what I tell him, but I'm so rubbish, I get the giggles and that sets him off

Note to self: must stop giggling when he does particularly fruity farts, as he now giggles when he does them too. Such laddish behaviour in one so young

My son claps himself too, when he builds a tower etc. Lol. I've been doing the no, move him away thing really consistantly, forever but he just ignores me! He seems to think it's a game to go back and do it again.

No. One word from me, and she does as she pleases.

He is listening to you - he just doesn't understand what you expect of him! I have an 18 month old and she will now sometimes do as asked but you absolutely can't rely on it. So if I say 'stand still' sometimes she will and sometimes she'll leg it! If they are in a dangerous situation then you need to move first and speak after. If it's just something thats annoying then you can try speaking first.Tantrums are inevitable at this stage - how would you react if somebody told you to do things you didn't understand and constantly removed you from doing things you found interesting? I know I'd tantrum! Distraction will work some of the time and some of the time it won't, you just have to hang in there but above all BE CONSISTENT. Make sure all the family understand the importance of that.

makes sense northernlurker... I hoped by removing him from whatever I didn't want him to do would help him get the message. He has a mini tantrum but a bit of distraction puts paid to that pretty soon.

It's very cute when they clap at how clever they are isn't it mamakim?

No not really, he someties cries as soon as I tell him no so he does know what it means. It seems to work better if I use a phrase rather than just the word no so I say something like "ds put that back please" or "ds don't touch that" and he seems to respond better and doesn't tantrum. Something about the word no just makes him cry!

my 15mth old hardly ever does what shes told either - she has got into the habit of standing on the hearth and i just take her off and tell her get off the hearth. im hoping it will eventually sink in, but i think she is just too young at the minute and i dont get stressed about it.

No he didn't and still doesn't at 20mths. Occaisionally if I use a loud firm voice he'll stop eg. playing with somthing dangerous.

I don't expect any improvement just yet.