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DS was 4 at the weekend. We're having issues, can anyone help?

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Flossish · 10/11/2008 16:00

I fundamentally believe that DS is a lazy wee'er. He dribbles usually at least twice a day, often to the extent that he wets his trousers. He was potty trained at about 2 and a half and did reasonably well at it. This problem has, it seems, gradually worsened.

I'm trying to get him to go through the night at the moment. He was wearing nappies at night until a few weeks ago however more often than not he was soaking them wet through. On occiasion we'd put him in a nappy an hr or so before bed, after his bath and before dinner and would find before bed he'd done a full wee in there. There have also been a few occaisions where he has opened his bowels in his nappies too.

So we're doing the basics, encouraging a wee before bed, limiting drinks after dinner and lifting when I go to bed at about 10-10.30. This is itself traumatic as DS screams when we do it, despite different approaches, bribery gently coaxing, speed apporach and being more stern.

He is a stubborn little thing. We remind him a lot during the day about his bladder, he'll deny needing a wee and often within minutes declare he is wet. Obviously he starts school next year and I'd really like this to be resolved. I remember how the little girl in class who smelt of wee was treated and at the moment this is going to be my DS!! I'd like to add in here I haven't told him this.

Now I know that a lot of boys aren't dry through the night until quite a few years later and if that was the only issue that would be fine. I do however feel that this and his day time 'accidents' are very much linked and that encouraging less reliance on the nappies may be the key?

Does anyone heave any other tips for stubborn little goats with a tendancy to go for the easy option. Either that or a magic want which will ensure my son has excellent bladder control?!

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Flossish · 11/11/2008 07:08

anybody able to help?

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rainbowdays · 11/11/2008 19:47

I posted a similar post to this a few weeks back : here

My daughter (just turned 4) was also having the occasional daytime "accident", I put it down to just having the arrival of a new baby brother, but also knew I had to tackle it. It was more of laziness than genuine accidents.

As you will read from the thread I worked on the removal of a major weekly treat (swimming) and said she could only go if she was dry that night - it worked. For the next few nights, if we had a strong enough insentive then she had no accidents, if I forgot to give her an insentive then we had wet bed. One night she then had a dry bed but was soaked in her pj's, she had not made it to the toilet, so I talked to her about it and we decided to put the potty by her bed as it was "easier". I also worked on a star chart for her, with pictures of things she would get if she was successful. Chocolate unfortunately has become her biggest insentive alongside the swimming. But currently we are working towards the goal of 7 happy-face stickers in a row to get her new big princess bed. I am dreading when she gets the new bed that she might regress, but so far she seems to like the idea of becoming a big girl in a big girl bed.

I don't know if this will help, but I wanted you to know that you are not alone in this.

Flossish · 12/11/2008 08:05

Thank you - I will try your tact - we could do the very same bribe for tomorrow! I just told DS. 'Oh, I use the toilet and thats how it is isn't it?'

He seems to get it atm so we'll see! Wish us a lot o lot o luck!!

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babyanimal · 26/11/2008 13:49

My daughter has been a slow potty-trainer and would have occassional accidents during the day, right up to 4 and a half years. She seemed to go through phases, where she'd be more likely to wet herself, especially later in the day. When this happened, I'd make a point of making her sit on the loo at 5pm and again at 6pm to try to do a wee. Even though she never wanted to, a wee often arrived! I found it hard to remember and used to kick myself if I forgot and then she had an accident. It did take the stress off, though, as I felt a bit more in control!

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