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ChaCha · 07/11/2008 22:22

DS1 is almost 3. He usually likes walking everywhere with me but will often, as is expected tire on the return home. I bought a bigger pushchair for our longer trips so that i could attach a buggy board (i have a 12 week old in car seat and a 21 month old in a Jane Two Twin pushchair) so he could just hop on when tired. He wears one of those Little Life bags so that i can keep him near me, it does feel at times like i'm taking a dog for a walk but i'd rather that than anything happening to him. Anyway, to cut a long story short he is now refusing the bag (overnight) insisting that i take it off him, he'll lie on the middle of the pavement and not budge! I tell him that i'll take it off if he uses the buggyboard but he says no i want to walk. I've let him walk near me, we've gone through the 'stop at the kerb, look left and right' (we do it everyday regardless of bag strap etc.) but still, i can't let him go alone after i watched him run off in front of me and when i shouted 'stoppppp' he looked round and laughed and continued, finally stopping at the main road as opposed to the entrance of a campus that was intended as a stopping point. In my heart of hearts i feel that he does understand and would stop but you can't take such a risk.
Any suggestions on what i can do? Going out it is becoming quite a mission as of late. My DH's advice was 'don't go out so far then' Problem is my pram is quite big for the bus now that buggyboard is attached although i was given a Phil and Teds that i use very locally.
How do i get over this stage, and when do i let him go? He is adamant that he will do EVERYTHING on his own!
Plus i don't think i could handle his lying down on middle of pavement refusing to mvoe again. Help!?!

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ilove · 07/11/2008 22:26

You're the parent. Set off somewhere he REALLY wants to go...put bag/wriststrap on him, he creates, home you go and he misses out.

Road safety is one of the absolute adamant MUST behave areas...same as wearing a seatbelt etc

ChaCha · 07/11/2008 22:35

Thanks. I've never gone back home or threatened to do so, probably because i am in need of the outing more than he is. I could try it next time.

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simpson · 07/11/2008 23:05

Would he walk next to the buggy or hold on to it?

And tell him that if he doesn't do that the bag goes on or he uses the buggy board?

Could you practice somewhere away from traffic first, so if he does run off its not a total panic, maybe the park??

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ChaCha · 08/11/2008 09:52

Thanks Simpson. I've tried both. I give him the choice, bag or buggyboard, he starts off alright choosing either one and then refuses to move at all. This is the problem.
I give him total freedom in the parks and play centres as i know he can't go anywhere. I will always tell him, you can run around as much as you like in the park but not here. He is almost turning 3 and seems to have developed this total need for independence overnight. Perhaps it's just a phase. Thanks.

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