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My toddler adores my friend...

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alittleteapot · 07/11/2008 21:00

...and it's great, lovely, shows how confident she is and sociable and all those things, but it's actually a bit weird when she pushes me away in favour of the friend, to the extent that sometimes even if she falls over she wants to go to the friend for comfort. Is this common? I'm not like worried worried about it, but if i'm honest it does sometimes make me feel just a little bit hurt and it would just help to hear it's very normal/healthy/whatever if it is of course!

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alittleteapot · 07/11/2008 21:36

i don't think i gave this thread the right title. anyway, quick bump before bed

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lingle · 07/11/2008 22:01

DS1's little friend absolutely ADORED me from about 12 months until I became very dull after pregnancy with DS2 when he was 30 months. We had great fun together.

I remember my friend being a bit hurt when her little lad did something and looked at me, not her, for approval. And he apparently used to ask for me all day.

It's like having a favourite auntie, very normal and healthy.

He's completely indifferent to me now but still loves his mummy!

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alittleteapot · 07/11/2008 22:08

I don't like feeling a bit hurt because i do think it's lovely, but it does feel odd...

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alittleteapot · 08/11/2008 08:02

anyone else?

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NotQuiteCockney · 08/11/2008 08:11

Oh, my kids often prefer other adults, I think it's nice. On Thursday, DS2 was poorly, and I had a (childless) friend coming around. I needed to go collect DS1 from a friends, so offererd DS2 the option of staying home with me, or staying home with my friend - he chose to go with my friend! (We all went, I knew DS2 would need to be carried!)

And we have a neighbour who is a pretend gran to the boys, who they both absolutely adore. She's a great extra adult in their lives, she's very calm, much more so than me or DH. I'm glad they're getting more positive adult relationships.

meandmyjoe · 08/11/2008 08:43

My ds would deffinitely push me aside to get to my brother in law. If he's plaing he looks to him for praise or approval. I think it's cos he's a novelty, mummy is boring as he sees me everyday. Brother in law is very good with him, very softly spoken and talks to him all the time so he adores him. I don't take it personally! I'm sure it's healthy.

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