...has just moved back home again because he has been thrown out of his house share?
Im asking on behalf of my friend who is at the end of her tether (again) over her DS2. He has a record of drinking too much, of temp jobs that he mucks up/walks out of, of temp house shares that seem to go wrong, and of spending borrowed money as if it never has to be paid back. He is currently about 4K in debt, has an insecure job he hates, and his parents have taken pity (again) and let him move back home. But he is horribly verbally aggressive to them, reduced his dad to tears today in a confrontation which is not unusual (they have history of not getting on, he once decked his dad and hospitalised him) and basically seems to take all his life resentments (shit job, no girlfriend, no money etc) out on them. My friend feels they can't ask him to go again since he really cant raise a deposit on a place and are loathe to bail him out again financially. So should I offer the money? Would he feel more obliged to pay it back to me, his godmother, or would I be throwing good money after bad? Is there another solution we can't see at the mo?
I used to have a lovely relationship with him when he was small but have lost touch since he moved into adulthood so a friendly chat from me isn't going to work. Last time I offered that he laughed in my face. And in his defence both his mum and dad can be ones to go off the deep end too...but even so, he is being a real shit at the mo.
Any ideas would be very gratefully received!