Would you go to this childs party knowing this woman will be there

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Hi
My ds recently managed to scratch a neighbours car with his bike he was going up her drive to call for her daughter who he regularly plays with.
This woman really went to town about it and showed hostility towards my ds and his other friend who was also with him when they called for her.
She also ranted at me and the other mother whose dd was with my ds when it happened demanding to know which one had caused the damage and who will be paying for it.
We have ended up paying for the damage as my ds owned up to doing it.
This woman lives next door to the parents of two other children that my ds regulalry plays with and my ds has been invited to one of their birthday partys this week.
The woman who's car was scratched is best friends with these childrens parents so of course will be at the party also with her dd.
Would you go to this party knowing that you will be in the presence of this woman.
I want my ds to go as the ill feeling is not between myself and their parents but I can,t help but feel awkward knwoing this other woman will be there after how she carried on at everyone.

I would go! Surely she wouldn't hold a "grudge" against your DS? It was an accident after all and you have paid for the repairs.

I would go.

I would also feel sick with fear about going, but why should her issues prevent your son being able to have some fun at a party?

and if she makes a scene, then shame on her for not being adult enough to get over somehting that was essentially an accident!

I would go.

I would definitely go. When there's bad feeling like this its best to just work through it so it can't affect you any more. It'll probably be better than you think now the whole thing has blown over and also this will come up again and again. Best just bite the bullet and get it over with.

Good luck.

I would go. You apologised, you paid for the damage, you have nothing to worry about - your conscience is clear.

I don't think I would seek her out or make eye contact as such, but if she looks your way, just smile and let her make the first move.

I would go, and just avoid her (unless she apologises of course). If she stands or sits near you it'd be easy enough to make some excuse and move away, especially as you don't mind if it looks like you are snubbing her.

So should I sort of play it down in a non hostile sort of toned down friendly way.

I would just be as friendly as you can without faking it. Actually if it were me I'd probably have to mention the elephant in the room straight away and say something like, 'So sorry about you car. Are you OK about it now?' or something, just to break the ice. She'll probably be a bit embarrassed about her OTT reaction and may even relish the chance to make things OK and clear the air.

Of course you don't need to be best of friends, but it's always best to break the ice and the person who can take the first step in that direction shows themselves to be big and grown up.

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