He's always been difficult, the "terrible two's" started when he was one, and have really continued until now (he's just turned 8).
He doesn't listen to me, he's rude, he lies, he throws major tantrums/strops - screaming and shouting hysterically, hurls abuse at me, he doesn't follow instructions and while he's being good he's fantastic, when he's in one of his moods he's bloody awful.
I've tried everything over the years, sticker charts, rewards, time out, staying calm, shouting (I know this is totally stupid ), every suggestion I've ever seen on boards (such as MN) I've tried - and persevered with over long periods of time.
Nothing has worked, and he just seems to be getting worse. I got a little cross with him last night, but as he was tired we agreed that we'd talk about it this morning. All morning I've been calm, spoken to him quietly and clearly - and still he's thrown an almighty tantrum all because I said he couldn't stay at home while I went to the shop.
At school/out of the house with other people people have nothing but praise for him. It's just with me he's like it
He's currently in his room (ranting and screaming) because he said he wanted to go to bed so I sent him.
I don't know what to do with him, DS2 (nearly 5) messes around and is silly, but he (usually) tells the truth, his strops are few and far between (and of the silent variety) and he listens to what I say.
Feel so bloody shit