Itsnothing to do with me but DB and SIL have 13wk old on mashed banana and petit filous!

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He is a big baby, 91st percentile so DB told me on phone last night. She has always had problems feeding but persevered and they seem to do well with mixed feeding, but when DB said that nephew enjoys his mashed banana and petit filous at 13wks I was
he is their first, but my first, now 21months, was exclusively BF till 6months as per advice.
I know there's nothing I can do, but can it be good for him?
Just ranting really

Mine were big (off the 99th centile), and I had them both on mashed banana, mashed up rusk and petits filous at 12 weeks. They were ravenous on milk alone!

But if they grow up to become ASBO-brandishing hoodies, I will know why.

he is their first, but my first, now 21months, was exclusively BF till 6months as per advice.

ermm...........6 months is 24 weeks no?

I'm always a bit about big babies needing solid food early. DD1 was 99th centile, but didn't have any solid food until 24 weeks, and that was just a tiny spoonfull of rice mixed into BM for "breakfast". She went onto vegetables at 26 weeks. She certainly didn't need anything before then, as she kept on increasing her weight () and solid food didn't suddenly make her a good sleeper either (another arguement - she didn't sleep well until a year old).

On the other hand, there were times when feeding her was exhausting, so I suppose I can understand that it would be easy to get to the end of your tether and try anything to reduce the workload a little.

You're right that it's nothing to do with you, by the way. I can't see any comments that you make going down too well.

6mths is 26 weeks actually.

Anyway of course it is not good for him and is probably actively bad.

I weaned my DS early too as he was huge and also ravenous on just milk. DD was content on milk alone till about 6 months. Both are fit healthy children with no allergies.
It is only recently mothers have been advised to wait till 6 months (it used to be 4). I know I am going to get slated but I personally think every baby is different and we should lead by them.

DH had custard when he was 5 days old. I completely blame this (& his mother of course) for all his digestive problems.

Wow, that was quick.
You're right Mrs Tittlemouse, anything I say will be ignored/thrown back at me so I didn't say anything.
It made me feel slightly better that DB admitted they'd said nothing to HV about it, even when she was talking about weaning
And Dottoressa, ditto for nephew, although it might be genetic too!

I'm always a bit surprised that the welfare of a close relative is seen as nothing to do with other family members. If this were my brother I would want to check that he and his partner understood that their course of action wasn't recommended (and could be damaging) just in case they hadn't read up for themselves and were relying on the 'never did me /mine any harm' types.

If they know the health advice and disregard it, then there isn't much you can do. Shame really.

My first was big and on 98th centile, but I didn't feed him solids until 5 months (this was 10 yrs ago so advice has changed since then to 6 months).

Isn't it interesting that in the early 1900s advice was not to wean til 9 months? The 3-4 months thing only appeared in the 70s.

I feel for you. You are concerned (in my opinion quite rightly) but of course anything you were to say, however diplomatically, would probably cause offence.
A difficult position.

One of the few times I am glad we are such an outpost of the family.
DH was cross when I told him. I is still sore about the time DB was p*ssed and told me I was an overprotective mother as DS couldn't hold a bottle - the poor little mite had hardly seen one!

Why can't they just give the baby bigger bottles of formula more regularly. 13 weeks is far too young to be on solids and apart fro anything, petit filous are apparantly full of sugar. Can't you suggest giving bigger bottles? If she is alreay mix feeding, this will be easier for her than extra bf.

15 years ago when ds1 was born an older hv (trusted family friend) told us that so long as the baby has doubled his birthweight you cn introduce small tastes to help 'pad' out a milk feed -now we didnt ply him with bby yoghurts but did give him baby rice at 6 week old and that staved his hunger off i was bf and the doc (my mils friend) said i couldnt go on feeding 23 hours out of 24,,,,,,im with those who say all babies are different.

but calorie wise baby rice, vegetables etc have less nutrition in them than breast milk, so how on earth is that meant to help a 'hungry' baby?

If babies are feeding a lot, it'll increase the milk supply, and then they'll feed less often as they'll get more each feed, if that makes sense.

Giving them solids too early is just going to have the opposite effect on milk supply and actually decrease the amount of calories they're taking in, overall.

Baby rice at 6 weeks, I am amazed at that, not in a good way either.

When DS 1 was born (13 years ago) the advice was just changing - to introduce solids at 4 months, not 3. SO if he had been born 13 years ago, at 3 months - and a big baby - he would have been nearly OK to have solids. (However I do remember it was always baby rice, perhaps a bit of mashed banana. Think petit filous actually say on them not before 6 months though? If they do perhaps you could point that out?)

Dh was weaned at 3 months, at the advice of MIL's GP- he was breast and bottle fed, and still screamed with hunger most of the time. He was extemely skinny and long.
He does however have a lot of problems now with ulcers

My ds's were both weaned at 13 weeks, they are fit and healhy. No food allergies.
Dont see what the big deal i.

my dh was a huge baby and back in his day he had a raw egg put in his bottle to keep him going...yuck!

2 of mine weaned early, one was on baby rice in the bottle made into a thicker drink. Big hole cut into the top.

Never did him any harm. Without it and just on mountains of baby milk his poor tummy would gurle and churn away like we do when we have had nothing but cups of tea all day.

that was from 6 weeks too.

I can see how this would happen if we listen to our parents' advice rather than getting the current info on weaning. My mum was advised to give me baby rice at 5 weeks in the bottle, so that I would last 4 hours between feeds, and to make the hole in the bottle teat bigger to let the thick milk through! Will never know if it;s related but I don't have great digestion or immunity nowadays.

I think it would be difficult for you to say something to your db but would applaud your bravery if you did!

started weaning at around 14/15 weeks..(but only baby rice)....never had any problems.

Not a great start. Petit filous!

It's not ideal. Obviously. But don't get yourself upset about it unless you feel you will be able to intervene and suggest that they stop without provoking WWIII. If it's any comfort to you my eldest has baby rice from about 14 weeks - 11yrs ago the advice was different. I think he's OK . At the time we were all shocked at one of the mum's in our ante-natal group feeding her 8 weeks old baby Skips ...I kid you not, skips! So try not to worry.