Meeting other mums

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I am a very proud mum to 4 month DD but so far I haven't met many other mums in the area so we end up spending alot of time just me and her. Now, to be honest it doesn't bother me too much, I have met a couple of mums nearby who are nice. But, after speaking to interfering SIL I now feel that maybe I should be making more of an effort for sake of DD as the friendships I make now will be setting her up for birthday parties, friends when she is older! We go to a few things in the week, swimming, mum & baby group & a music session so she is interacting with other babies. Am I now being neurotic? She is only 4 months and is very happy but don't want to deprive her of hanging out with the other babies when she older!None of my friends have babies yet and luckily SIL with children is many miles away.

Erm..your DD is four months, and you go to 3 activities a week, and your SIL thinks you should be making more effort?

She's 4 months old - yes she (and you) will make friends eventually, but these things take time.

Your SIL sounds like a nutter.

i was barely leaving the house at 16 weeks

i went to ONE mother and baby group and that was it

anything at this age is all for the benefit of the mums not the babies

babies don't need/want to hang out with friends at 4 months old

would tell your SIL to relax

The only thing I can see you doing wrong is listening to your SIL .

It depends on what you want. When DS1 was 4 months old I had a couple of good friends, we were meeting up a few times a week simply because it kept us going, we had a nice chat and coffee and it made us feel better. We could talk about stuff without feeling judged (unlike talking to family or HV, for example) and we had good laughs at strange stuff happening to us. I don't know what I would have done without them. So it's up to you, there is loads of time, but it is a good time to make new friends.