Does it cause problems if your DCs were born on the same day or very close?

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Just wondered if it accentuated sibling rivalry and how you dealt with it and made it into a positive.

DS was born on DHs birthday, poor DH will never have a proper birthday again!

My brother and I are the same age for a day. He is 364 days older then me! We always shared parties and had a cake each, baked by my fab mother. I loved it, cant remember the presents and how that worked out but I had the most beautiful party dress that fitted me for about 3 years and as long as I got to wear that I didnt care. I loved that we had almost the same b'day.

I have 3 younger brothers, 2 have birthdays 2 days apart and the other's birthday is a week later.

We had big joint parties several times and there were no issues at all. They all had cake/presents on their actual birthday anyway, and none of them seem remotely traumatised by the experience!

Funny Ladyofroffle Dh has never had a proper birthday as he shares his with his dad. And every year we are told to that we have to see FIL as it his birthday .

My MIL had one DS on her birthday, other DS on FIL' birthday! Makes remembering easier.

My DD2 was due on DS's birthday, but born 5 days late. I think we'll share parties as long as we can get away with it. Poor DD1 feels left out because she's not getting any presents/parties that week!

My DDs are 9 days apart. I'm pretty certain that even aged 4 DD1 would have a fit if I tried to make her share her party with DD2, so I imagine we'll do seperate parties sometimes, and joint parties at others. I suppose it depends on circumstances, e.g. I can imagine when they are a bit older they might really enjoy both being taken on an outing or something together but with their own groups of friends.

It did influence my decision on getting pg this time though, we avoided the time that would have given us another birthday around the same time and waited until the following month - so it's not going to be THAT far off, but at least it's not the same month this time!

Dd wasn't suppoed to be the same month, let alone the same week as DS, not that it was planned.
She was born 3 weeks early, theoretically if she had been 2 weeks there would have been nearer 6 weeks between them.

I had preeclampsia with ds,they actually started inducing ds at 6.30am on my birthday even then he didn't turn up until the night 2 days later.

WE had joint birthdays until ds was 6 with no problems with the dcs.

mine enjoy sharing birthdays. I have dd(8) and ds(6) who share the same birthday and dts, so four kids but only two birthdays. Thankfull;y they are a few months apart so it doesn't get too pricey.

The only problem we have had so far is that dd longs for a big pink cake, but since they share it hasn't really been possible. I don't mind buying two cakes, but we just don't know enough people to eat two cakes. Maybe next year I will give in and freeze halves.

Mine seem to find it quite fun sharing, and are quite proud of the fact. Plus it makes for a big celebration. We don't really do parties but we do a day out somewhere as a family and usually a meal out to celebrate.

I think it's probably easier for us that it is two and two so noone seems to have noticed yet that they might be missing out by not having an individual day.

someone i know was born on his elder brother's birthday

Elder brother was furious that he had a baby brother for a birthday present

DSs are 6 days apart (7 in a leap year ) and it's been fab. None of this "present on your sibling's birthday" malarky and they're 2 years apart so joint parties were perfectly doable. All done and dusted in the space of a week

my sister's birthday is 2 days before mine (she is 6 years younger). the only thing that bothered me when we were younger is that well meaning aunt types used to give us "matching" presents - as sis's birthday was first, i always used to then know what i was getting

AFAIR i wasn't bothered at all that mum was in hospital recovering from sis's birth on my 6th birthday!

now, though, tis fab - we had a joint party a few years ago which was one of my best birthdays ever!

Ooh good thread. My DDs are 2 years and 2 days apart but as DD2 is 6 months we haven't had a birthday yet (although we shunted DD1's second birthday forward a week to reduce chance of my missing it), only problem is how enormous I look in her party photos! [vain]

I was assuming we'd do joint parties until they objected. I did realise the other day that people will always send both presents for the earlier birthday to hedge against getting them the wrong way round.

My 3 eldest Dc are all in the one week in June. Have had treble parties when they were younger. Best thing is that they all get birthday presents at the same time so there is no jealousy!

dd was really chuffed with her baby brother as a 2nd bday present. Thing is though, she decided that he really was hers, like some sort of lifelike doll. I had to put my foot down when she picked him up and carried him to the door to show him off to a visitor!

My sister's birthday is the day before mine. We had joint parties until we were 7 and 9. It never bothered me.

this is interesting - dd1 and dd3 are 5 years plus one day apart. Age gap too big to have join parties

What's interesting is I got my AF back to exactly collide with conceiving to be born at same time of year, so perhaps Mother Nature thinks joint birthdays are a good idea!

My twin sister and I were born on our elder sister's birthday. So I have always had to share with two others not just one. I remember once our birthday fell on Mothers day, there were four of us opening presents on one day!

I suppose now that we are all married and living in different houses we have our own special day. Sometimes I love it and sometimes it seems unfair that I have to go out and buy two other presents on my birthday!!

Dd and ds are 5 years and 3 days apart - and dp birthday is the day before ds. January is an expensive month...