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Baby cries when she sees her grandad

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RaspberryBlower · 17/10/2008 19:59

My five month old baby will smile at any old lady in the street but every time she sees my dad she cries. He absolutely dotes on her and I feel sorry for him. Any tips as to how he make himself more appealing, or will she just grow out of it? He sees her about once a week.

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pinkbubbleGUM · 17/10/2008 20:00

Does he have a beard?

Uriel · 17/10/2008 20:01

Snap, pinkbubble - just what I was going to ask!

nickytwoooohtimes · 17/10/2008 20:01

She'll grow out of it.
Ds is 2 and dotes on his grandpa now bu tused to cry when he saw him. I think the fact that grandpa was so keen for him to love him that it was a bit intimidating.

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smugmumofboys · 17/10/2008 20:01

Beard or glasses? DS1 used to freak when saw either of those for a while.

Sazisi · 17/10/2008 20:03

Aw how heartbreaking for him! It's really ttypical for babies to make strange at people though. DD3 was hugely suspicious of my dad for a while (maybe because he has a beard!) but now they're great pals
She will grow out of it; I don't know what you can do to speed up the process though.

2point4kids · 17/10/2008 20:04

glasses scare babies ime
she will grow out of it, just keep reassuring your dad that its nothing he has done and that its just a phase!

nolongeraworriedmummy · 17/10/2008 20:06

my dd did until he shaved his mustache off! Now they are best of pals.

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RaspberryBlower · 17/10/2008 20:07

Thank you, good to know others have had the same problem and grown out of it. He doesn't have a beard but does have those glasses that go dark and is quite a large man. Nickytt - I think the love desperation also has something to do with it, now you mention it!

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fourlittlefeet · 17/10/2008 20:08

my DD did the same to my mum! mum went and had laser treatment on her eyes as a result! bit weird but they love each other loads now (not suggesting he go for treatment) but think they do grow out of it. DD still a bit scared of my dad but they don't see each other that often.

RedLollyYellowLolly · 17/10/2008 20:11

At about the same age my DD did the same to my FIL - she would absolutely scream if he so much as looked as her.

To add insult to injury she loved my dad who has both a beard and glasses (FIL has neither).

Needless to say it was a phase and "daddad" (FIL) is now a complete favourite.

onwardandupward · 17/10/2008 20:14

Also loud boomy man voices can be scary to babies, especially if their Daddy is more of a quiet tenor voice type man.

nickytwoooohtimes · 17/10/2008 20:17

RB, I think my lo is a bit like a cat - if he is ignored or only mildly acknowledged, he is all ove teh person. However, if someone wants him to be all friendly and cuddly, he doesn't like it!
As I say though, he now idolises his 'papa'. It is very sweet.

Pumpkin2001 · 04/03/2022 17:16

My granddaughter is 9 mths old, she gets herself so upset when she sees her grandad. It breaks my heart, because he loves her so much. She used to be ok with him, but then didn't see him for a while as I was in hospital. Since I came home she changed. 😥

mdh2020 · 04/03/2022 17:47

DD didn’t like going to granddad until she was walking and he bought her a wheelbarrow. We think he used to hold her too tight.

BettyOBarley · 04/03/2022 18:14

She'll grow out of it. Both mine did this with their grandad at some point. I think it was the glasses!

Wisemensay · 04/03/2022 18:19

My DD was the same but by 1 her grandad was her favourite person in the world and still is.

Suzi888 · 04/03/2022 18:21

@smugmumofboys

Beard or glasses? DS1 used to freak when saw either of those for a while.

^ yup Grandad had both and DD hated him.

KatherineofGaunt · 04/03/2022 18:23

She'll grow out of it. My DS was terrified of my brother for the first 15-18 months of his life. He's fine with him now.

PamelaDoov · 04/03/2022 18:29

DS used to cry whenever my dad came over to play with him- he’s very tall and broad with facial hair and glasses, so a lot for a baby to take in. DS got over it after a few months, now he loves playing with him.

BlueGreyApple · 05/03/2022 14:23

My son would smile at lots of random people at that age but usually they were women. He found (most) men threatening. I think it may be an instinctual thing?

I'd keep meeting him but maybe get him to keep a bit of a distance - i.e. don't hand her to him, and don't let him get into her face so she can get used to him. Eventually she will work out he is a safe person.

Pumpkin2001 · 10/03/2022 17:20

He has a beard, he grew it while I was in hospital.

Pumpkin2001 · 10/03/2022 17:21

Thankyou 😘 xxx

problembottom · 11/03/2022 12:56

She'll definitely grow out of it. My DD went through a phase of screaming if one of my DSis came in the room. I think it was because she's very big, very loud and DD was terrified.

My lovely DSis didn't take it personally and DD loves her to bits now.

HotMummaSummer · 11/03/2022 16:46

We had the same with grandad, glasses and big eyebrows I think. Also a friend of ours who had a mustache and glasses.

She grew out of it by probably 10months

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