I am at my wits' end. Ds2 is driving me demented and I just don't know how to deal with him. Ds1 is 6.5, dd is 4.7 and ds2 is 2.10. He is a fiend. He does and says exactly what he wants and nothing I say or do has any effect. He picks up all the others' playground vocab (his latest is "you IDIOT"). He cannot see anything without having to touch or interfere with it. Handbag has to be explored. Torch has to be turned on. Key has to be jammed in a lock. It is not physically possible to put everything out of his reach and he'd find a way of getting to it anyway. I am at screaming point about the state of the house - all the fridge magnets get swept on to the floor. Felt tips pen lids taken off and left. Jigsaw puzzles emptied then left. If I'm cooking he comes and fiddles with the knobs or reaches up for knives or open packets. he won't stay in front of the telly for more than 5 mins. He beats up his sibs who scream and fight and make the situation worse. He is at playgroup now for 5 mornings a week but it only gives me half an hour to myself, once travel time counted. When I put him on the loo he needs to try to take my earrings out or push my specs right into my face. Etc etc etc.
i am so frightened that I am never going to be able to control him. I just can't see how to cope with this. He is a tearaway. Help!