fear of child of van coming late for picking up after school is over

[usha16]

hello,my five year old son was kept waiting for almost two hours on two occassions by the van driver because of which he has started crying every day while going to school fearing that situation again. Pl help.thanks.

what van driver?

is he picked up from school?

do you pay for it?

why was it so late?
did you kick up a stink?
is it guaranteed not to happen again?
could you pick him up to reassure him?

no it is not going to happen again, the child goes to school by a van and we pay him for that. we both can't pick him up. the van was late b'cause of traffic jam and there was no other issue with the driver. for some time we did pick him up but that's not possible every day.

I'm not surprised your lo is so upset if he was left at school BY HIMSELF for 2 hours. Didnt the teacher try and contact you???? Crikey, I was once 15 minutes late in collecting my son from nursery and there was hell to pay.

This sounds a bit strange to me. You should make other arrangements for your child if the current one is so unreliable.

please help anybody tnx

I don't think we can really help unless we have more information usha16. Sounds an odd arrangement to me - is the 'van' organised by a taxi firm? Are you in the UK?

was the child not being supervised by anyone to ensure he was safely picked up? is the school office not open?

the driver should surely have a mobile phone to contact the school or parents to advise.. a 2 hour delay leaving a 5 year old alone is not acceptable

can you get a childminder to collect your son and take him to their home or is there an after school club?

are you waiting at home for him, where does he go after the van picks him up?

Trip trap?

I'm afraid I don't really understand what you're looking for

Awful for your child and for you that he was left for so long - but all I can really suggest is that if your current arrangements aren't working you need to make different ones. Perhaps the school can recommend a childminder to have your son until you are able to collect him? Are you in the UK?

I'm sure the child was being supervised by the school But I agree it is traumatic for the child and I can imagine that it worries about it happening again. You need to get a more solid arrangement in place - is there an after school club he could go too or does a nearby day nursery to after school pickups?

This doesn't make sense. Where is he supposed to go when he gets off this van - home to you, childminder, other family? Did whoever was meeting him at that end not start phoning etc to see what was happening? I also don't understand how anyone could get stuck in a traffic jam for two hours on a school run unless the school is absolutely miles away from where the van driver started his route? And how can you say it won't happen again if you still have the same arrangement - presumably there could be traffic problems again in the future? I don't think we can help with your con's anxiety until we understand a bit more about this arrangement.

2 hours stuck in traffic?

Interesting first post.

"van" is pretty standard American for minibus.

Oh dear, I hope we haven't scared her off! Usha16, if you're still there, and assuming this was a genuine question, do come back and tell us more and we'll try to give advice. You'll find that the advice is often quite blunt, but usually good!

is this real?? seems a bit strange that she refers to 'the child'.

I know I sound supicious but seems a bit strange that she asks for help but gives no info in which we could offer advice and help!