How do I get a nrly 5 yr old out of nappies/pullups at night?

[StudentMadwife]

Please advise me, I just dont know where to start!

Take them away and put a waterproof sheet on the bed. My ds was 4 when I did this. He would be dry in the night and then pee when he woke up as too lazy to go to bathroom.

And that works? How long was it before he was keeping the bed dry?

I found that if ds1 had a nappy on he would lie in bed and wee. No nappy = get up and wee in the toilet.
While they are getting used to it you may have a few wet beds but its just a bit of extra washing for a while. Just like the extra clothes washing you have to do when they are potty training.

With DD2, we stopped using nappies, protected her bed, and picked her up and sat her on the loo just before DH and I went to bed for the night(they will pee when on demand even when three-quarters asleep). The first few weeks, we tried to pick her up in the middle of the night too.
We don't need to pick her up anymore; sometimes she does need a wee, but wakes up and yells at us
We also stopped giving her drinks after dinner. Although now she has it sussed she has bedtime milk again.

We started keeping a chart and he was dry for about five nights then had an accident, then a few weeks later this would be 10-12 night then an accident. He had been dry during the day for 18 months by this point and I knew he could be at night too as , if I whipped off the nappy as soon as he was up, it would be dry (took me a long time to catch onto this though).Eventually after a couple of months the accidents were rare but he did still have one or two in the next few months but with less regularity. He needed reminding to go to toilet before bed. Also tried the waking up and making him go but he was too out of it. However, also figured out that if he woke during the night or seemed restless, it was usually because he needed the loo. Even now sometimes, I take him in half dazed if he is muutering and moaning in his sleep.

Mine recently stopped, overnight, at 6.5. It coincided with him losing his first tooth. It'll happen and when it does it's like a switch going off.

If I were you I'd take the stress out of it and just keep giving him nappies.

can I ask..is there an age to stop nappies at night..? ie potty training is usually between 2-4...is there a similar thing with dd...?

dd is 3.4 yrs and potty trained for 9 months now (problems though on another thread..) and I just sense that others at night are dry at night and in pants iykiwm....

Just reading this thread some lo's are 4,5,6+ and not dry at night...am I rishing dd or am I ok leaving for a while longer..

Gosh the pressure us mums get...

sorry to hijack, answeres appreciated x

Being dry at night is a hormone thing beyond the child's control. That is different to being dry at night and weeing in nappy once a wake in the morning though.

I have 4 dds, 3 of them were dry at the age of 2 sadly one of them is still not reliable dry at 6.5 (and she is very upset about it!)

so what do I do cargirl..?

Tonight I decided to put dd to bed minus a nappy, she was aware and I said shout if you need a wee...
I have just been into her, she has wet herself . I have put her onto the toilet, nothing,sorted her out and she is back in a nappy at her request.
"good idea mummy, now I can wee in my nappy" .

Do I persevere and be changing clothes/bedding several times a night a a few weeks or do I wait longer..??? if so how long..?

see Im not bothered iykiwm but just felt I was being frowned upon iykiwm by friends etc...wondered if there was an age to do it by..?

I have waited for them to have dry nappies in the morning and then stopped giving them nappies.

Educate your friends - it's a hormone thing beyond their control!

. Thanks.

Hmm..............so as I thought...dd's nappy is saturated most mornings and I guessed it would be dry if she is ready..

so if that the indicator and its not me who leads the way iykwim....

btw, my friends need educating in many ways

You can do it in that "didn't you realise that there is this hormone that you produce during that day that super concentrates your urine so can stay dry whilst asleep, it is well documented that some adults do not produce enough of it - in severe casis, you know when they are teenagers they can give you a synthetic version of the hormone. The specialists don't consider it a prblem until around the age of 7 or 8"

ah right............so I just sit and wait for dry morning nappies....I can do that no problem .

Now, off to educate my friends .

so much less stressful too

I found that by 'lifting' DS, we managed to overcome the bedtime wetting easily.

I also used pampers bedmats which last for ages if not wet on.

But by lifting they are not actally dry at night, you are doing it for them.

Certainly until the age of 5 or 6 it is quite a high percentage of children who are not capable of being dry at night.

The way to encourage production of the hormone is to vastly increase the amount of fluid intake during the day.

thing is I doubt dd would even allow us to put her onto the toilet at night iykiwm...

when she just woke tonight (when wet) I put her on the toilet but she was reluctant and just wanted to go back to bed...I think if I was to go in several times at night she would be like an angry teenager .

I was just about to start a thread about this very subject!!

My ds is 6. For the 6 weeks summer hols I took him out of night time nappies. He was dry for only 2 nights, not consecutively, and that was that. He wont get up in the mornings and have a wee (this is when the majority of wetting takes place for him). I recently popped him back into nightime pull-up (supermarket own brand) as all he got from the experience was rash on his tummy and thighs.

TBH I'm going to the docs on Monday to ask for a referral to the enuresis clinic as he's not 100% dry during the day either.

sorry to hear that... hope all goes well x