Picking your battles, giving in, stubborn DD, DH doing it differently

[ImnotMamaGbutsheLovesMe]

How on Earth do you reconcile all that?

Tell me about it! I am in the same boat. Will watch this thread for answers as i want to bang their heads together most nights!

Just you and me then!

Dh stayed calm and DD did what he wanted in the end. A real break through as I usually give in.

ImnotMamaG sounds like your DH's approach is worthwhile then? If you usually give in then your dd will try it on more and more and more IME.

I totally agree. Hard to stick too for me at times. DD is very stubborn, I can be too scared soft with them.

You're bound to have slightly different parenting approaches - I think most couples do. The only important thing is that you never undermine each other in front of the DCs. If DH is doing/saying/handling something in a way I don't agree with, I get him out of the room before I do the hissing ranty thing at him - I don't want the DCs to ever doubt either of our authority.

Okay give yourself a stern talking to and resolve to pick your battles but when you do you must see it through to the end in a calm manner. Hard I know but once you've established yourself then your dd will try it on less.

Deep breaths, deep breaths.

I definitely am guilty of interferring when I don't agree with DH but I hadn't seen it as undermining him personally. Sometimes my way is quicker but may set up problems for the future. [oops] DH tends to walk off in a bit of a strop when I interfere.

This is where I have been going wrong recently.

Last example, I butted in in front of ds. Dh asked if I could try it his way. I said 'oh, but he's been poorly today, don't just leave him screaming'. Dh did the right thing and I apologised for trying to get my oar in as usual!!

I just find it really hard when we are both there and want to try different tactics. My DH will also go off nad say 'you do it then'.
Infuriating, but I think I have to let him do things his way.
I moan at him to help and then say 'Why did you do that? I asked you to do rah rah rah'...My poor, lovely suffering man!