I am of the opinion that when my daughter is old enough if she is doing something dangerous or destructive that I would be happy for another mother to kindly stop her but I have been told recently that the done thing is as a parent of a child in danger of being throttled etc that you should say nothing but remove your child from the situation.
I can see this working if a child is targetting one other, but what if there is more than one child at risk. Do I just remove my own child and tell the mother of the boisterous child or leave the others to fend for themselves? Or what if someone else's child is scribbling on my walls. There must be occasions where quick action is necessary to prevent accidents or damage and a kindly 'Please be careful with that' etc etc is acceptable.
Also do I have to keep moving my happily playing child from place to place because someone else is not controlling their child? And what happens when another child snatches a toy from mine, can I then say, 'X was playing with that' or does this constitute interfering?
I sound as though I am over analysing this but it has been a cause of some unpleasantness between me and another mother recently and I really feel that the issue is more about the other mother being in control than that their child was upset or confused by my saying something. I am very confused and upset about the whole thing and would like some feedback so I can either avoid offending people in the future or at least have some idea of what is generally acceptable.