Want to know how many hours you spend in sole charge of your dcs a week

[missmuddle]

Not sure if its me but i seem to find it really difficult to cope with the time i look after my my dcs. So i want to compare the hours i have dcs for

I have 3 dcs
I am in sole charge for approx 72 hours monday to friday and share the care sat/sun
I also work 13 hours a week

I have no family support for any of this time

I think this is alot of time and struggle by the end of the week as I seem to spend most the time just getting stuff done and not engaging with the children.

Does anyone else feel ike this?

are we counting sleeping hours?

so 168 hours in a week

I work 5 days and with commuting that is 60 hours

I have sole charge from Thursday to Sunday morning so that's 48 hours (12 hours on thurs and fri and 24 hours on sat)

Wed night is football night so that's sole charge for a few hours say 2 hours

Sunday to football on Wednesday is shared care

so work 60 hours, sole charge (incl sleeping hours) 50 hours, rest of time 58 hours shared care (incl sleeping hours).

shared care i.e. me and dh. We also don't have family help but I have a nanny.

about 70 hours a week

no help from family at all, DP works 6.30am-6,30pm then chilcare is shared

DD1 at nursery 9-11.30am 5 days a week
DD2 at nursery 9-11.30 3 days a week
DD3 9 weeks old and BF so stuck to me

erm she is at school for 6 hours a day so average weekly total is 138 hours a week

or 168 on school holidays

same as bmgm most weeks with no local family to help at all.

About 55 hours per week. 2 DDs under 3.

I had not included sleep time or school time I too am BF so sole charge of one at night who feeds all night.

DS1 and ds2 go to school so i only have them for about 30 hours a week
but dd1 is under 1 so i have her for the 72 hours plus sleep.
But judging from the posts What I~ do is not that unusual so I will just have to get better at it

Absolute sole charge?

I have 2 children, one in school, and one not doing anything.

Their dad visits for 3 hours most nights and averages (over a few months) one night a fortnight

I go out, without the children, for maybe 16 hours a week. If I am not out, I am in sole charge. So 24 x 7 = 168 minus 16 = 152

Sole charge 152 hours a week.

absolutely sole care for 96 hours a week on average (DH works away four nights) and shared care the rest of the time; although he does tend to take over at weekends. No family support here either as PILs already booked up with BILs three children

I have a six year old DS who is at school during the day, and a 15 month old DD who is with me all the time, and am seven and a bit months pregnant.

I find it really draining and struggle to get things done in the house with my hurricane baby undoing things as quickly as I can do them and seem to spend all day shouting "No, DD/DS", "put that down", "leave that/the cat/your brother/your sister/mum's bag (delete as applicable) alone". Tis soul destroying some days

I have 2 children under 3.
I have sole charge all week as DH out from 7am till 8pm.
DS1 goes to nursery 3 afternoons a week, but I still have DS2 with me.
We share it all at weekends.

I do find it very hard work. Manageable with the nursery sessions, but still hard work!

Two DCs - one 6.5 and in school, and the other 18 months and at Childminders when I work 27 hours a week.

Sole charge - 50 hours a week
Share care - two evenings a week and every 3rd weekend (DH works shifts but is rubbish when here!!)
Plenty of family support if ask for it - but try not to as my mum has enough to do

I probably dont spend as much time with DC's as would like - DD looses out the most, as I have a day off in week with DS.

It is a struggle, but when they are off I wish they were back in school / CM!!

I have 14 month old DS. No contact with my family who are unaware of his existence. PIL are lovely but very far away.

Dh leaves the house at 6.30 am and returns at 6.45 pm. I'm BF as well, so from about 8.30 pm DS only wants me, and I deal with any night waking too.

DH is great - washes up, leaves me a packed lunch in the fridge and breakfast out on the side. Cleans with me on Sunday mornings, does the shopping on line for me. Takes DS for 2 hours Saturday and Sunday mornings for me while I have an extra sleep. Honestly I couldn't ask for more. However I used to find it very, very difficult when DS was very little. It's much easier now he's walking and playing etc.

55 hours of waking time. DD is 13 months.
I was feeling sorry for myself (no family nearby) but now am feeling sheepish as I seem to have it easier than most of you.

I have sole charge for 13 hours per day (not incl sleep time) 5 days per week so 75 waking hours per week

I work 2 12.5 hours shifts, dd's at nursery for one day and my parents look after them the second day.

Dh does help out when he isn't deployed but even that is only for 1-2 days per week when he's at home, at the minute he's away.

24/7 take away 4 hours a weeks when xp has them and saturday morn till sunday night twice a month.
so 168 - 4 - 32 = 132 sole hours per week.
They are both at school, but I cant wander far without having someone else prepared to pick them up from there.

24/7 for 1 of them, minus school hours for the other 2, for 2 weeks, then I have either one or two nights/days off.

I don't think you have to get better at it missmuddle, it's just a case of muddling through as best you can isn't it. DH works 6 days a week, up to 14 hours a day, and I have no family support either and sometimes I find the weekends harder than the weeks as I keep thinking, 'it's the weekend , this is when i'm meant to have a break, and of course it never happens. Find it really hard not to be envious of friends who have family nearby to help out when things get tough. Just keep going and if you find a magic formula to make things easier please let me know