Anybody ever had this? - 7mo DD hates her cot

[LuckySalem]

I don't know if this is down to her teething at the moment but DD seems to hate going in her cot.

The last 3/4 nights everytime I've put her down she screams her head off, however, as soon as I put her in our bed she's asleep within about 2mins.

Is there any reason she does this? Also am I doing her any harm in letting her fall asleep in our bed? (Building a rod for my back)

Sometimes I can move her into her cot but sometimes she wakes up again screaming as soon as her head hits her mattress.

Cheers all.

Well she's in our bed again. I gave in

I spent the best part of an hour and half going in and out. She got herself so bad that she was lying there sobbing and gasping for breath sweating like hell.

I crumbled ... I feel pretty useless now.

I even tried putting in the old pillowcase for her to have our smell and although she snuggled into them she just carried on screaming [sigh]

you know what LuckySalem, I'm afraid I don't got for this 'rod for your own back' stuff. Ds would go through unsettled phases like this, brought on by teeth or illness, and we took the view that if he felt more secure in our bed, then that was fine, more sleep and less stress for everyone.

DS is 2.4 now, and occasionally still wants to sleep in our bed, and sometimes does, but the difference is that now we can explain why he can't when we don't want him to, and reason with him. Whereas as you seem to be finding, you can't reason with a 7 month old!

If she's happy in your bed, then put her in there, is my advice. Can you move her when you go to bed? We used to move DS when we wanted to turn in, and he never woke up.

Whatever works for your child, IMVHO.

HTH

Sometimes I can move her over and other times she wakes up.

In all honesty I don't mind her being there except for the fact that she spreads out so much there is little or no room for me.

she knows what she wants

and she'll yell until she gets it

that is not "manipulation" - that is intelligence!

Yep Gargarin - She definatly knows how to twist me round her finger. If she wasn't so damn stubborn and gave in when she was tired I wouldn't have this problem.

I have it during naps as well.

DD also 7 mo does this too . Not all the time, mostly she's ok but she'll go through days at a time when she won't settle in the cot. Bit different though as she is still in our room and she has always fallen asleep with us, then we move her which usually works fine. She slept in with me last night as we had about 6 failed attempts to settle her by 1.30am. I keep meaning to start to sort out her sleep so that she can settle on her own but I don't know where to start!

Eyeball DD is with us too still I haven't the heart to put her in her own room plus it's not finished yet. lol

If you don't mind her being there, LuckySalem, then I would just ride it out. We found with DS that these things were almost always just phases, which stopped on their own after a week or two. As long as you keep putting her in her cot initially, then you don't just get into the habit of her sleeping in your bed all the time, I bet she'll go back to settling fine within a couple of weeks.

If she's teething, then she's in pain and wants to be somewhere where she feels safe and near you, and not on her own - that makes perfect sense to me.

Personally, I think all these sleep training techniques are a load of old hooey - basically, the phase stops when it stops, and noone really knows what made it stop, iyswim. And controlled crying, IMVHO, is just cruel.

I have a cot which I have taken the side off of and attached to my bed, so although DS2 comes into my bed in the night to feed when he is asleep I just push him over to his cot.
Might help her getting used to it again?

How was bedtime tonight, LuckySalem?

Shes in our bed again but I'm determined to move her over as only had 4 hours last night.. [yawn]

She's presented with a cold this morning though so that could be why she's been as she has.

Could be - poor you, hope you get some more sleep tonight!

So Do I - unfortunately today I have insomnia.

life is not being kind to you, is it? hope the sleep fairies come to visit tonight.

DD spent last night in with me as well. She's taken to waking at 2.30am on the dot and I can't get her back in the cot. Luckily we've got a huge bed so she doesn't exactly stop me sleeping (DH has been kicked out) and I sleep with a finger hooked into her sleeping bag so I know if she moves too far.

Would be nice to get a straight night though. Hope it's better for you tonight LS. It doesn't sound like you get much sleep with her there and I sympathise.

It'll be better once we get our new bigger bed but we've got a small double so its horrid and she insists on lieing sideways [grrr] lol

Yes, they do tend to be space hoggers, don't they! I found I had to become a bit less protective of Ds and just roll him out of the way, rather than trying to sleep round him.

He's quite a tolerable bed companion now, he's used to being shunted around by me and DP and never wakes up! It's just first thing in the morning, when he wakes me up with a friendly head butt, that still needs work....

Yeh I'm not protective - when I get in bed she gets shifted over and doesn't wake up much, its just that during the night she shifts back again. lol

Had a mini breakthrough last night. When I finally got tired and went to bed, I woke her up for a dose of calpol and then put her in her cot and she went back to sleep.

Although I've had to "ignore" her for most of the night - waking up crying for a couple of mins then falling back to sleep.