Have just had words with my HV who had the nerve to say that because we didn't agree with what she said and wouldn't take her advice it was within the realms of neglecting our ds. How dare she say that. I've had the emotional blackmail (if it were my son I would want him to get all the help he could get) but to even intimate that we are neglecting ds just beggars belief. I was shaking when I came off the phone. She actually said it twice. She said because we were refusing his 39 month check she would have to report it to her manager, explain the reasons (she wants to send ds to a speech therapist and we don't consider it necessary) and her manager could consider it to be within the realms of neglecting our child. I felt like saying perhaps she should spend some time children who are really neglected then perhaps she would know the difference. I'm quite expecting a knock on the door from social services now. Last year she upset me so much I was in tears, the year before she upset me and now this year I'm just plain angry. I'm all for her giving her opinion but to keep shoving it down our throat and then say things like that is just too much. Sorry but she made me really angry and now I'm worried that we will have social services on the doorstep.