on reflection (ie looking at my moaning thread earlier) im wondering about trying to get dd to bed earlier and getting more time with my son, and more time with me! what time does/did your one year old go to bed? dd usually sleeps until around 11-12. she will wake for a bottle at 8ish while im getting ds ready for school, then sleep again. in the early days i was so greatful for a bit of rest, (she didnt sleep at all at night for the first couple of weeks, i got used to waking every three hours after that for a time and then insomnia kicked in) that i would go back to bed while she slept. then later on i would stay up while she slept and try to get things done. however, time in the morning wont help me see more of ds (because he's at school!) and nor is it helping me have a bath, or relax (not when baby is going to wake up soon) id rather she woke earlier and went to bed earlier. i tried it once for a week but she was so grumpy in the day i gave up and let her lie in...now im thinking shes grumpy all the time anyway so while i want a better routine, i dont want to make her worse! any suggestions? if i keep her up at nine what time should i put her to bed? i think this would be a good thing for all three of us. i know it wont change her clingyness so the housework wont get done any better than it does now, but i know ds would be happier and hopefully i would be a lot less stressed too.
we need routine in this house! (i never thought id say that).