This is wrong, isn't it?

[MamaGLovesMe]

More often than not the kids will ask me to do something with, or for them, and I will say in a minute, hang on, not at the moment, as I am usually in the middle of something.

Should I be stopping what I am doing to do what they want more often than not?

I feel so bad about it but am really struggling atm. I realise while I was a brilliant nanny, I am not a natural mum.

OP Mine tend to ask me to do stuff when I am in the middle of something - I tend to say something like 'you're next, then ...'

my dd watches the second hand on the clock if I use the" in a minute" phrase.

ds's favoutite s 'i wanna come up with you' with arms outstretched and wobbling lip right when i'm trying to stop the dinner burning.

they can happily ignore me sitting on the couch for an hour straight (pregnant so have an excuse!) but the second i get up to put a load of washing on/do dinner they suddenly decide they want stories read or puzzles done

I try and do it as soon as I can.

DD does realise that I tend to move quickly when the words "I need a......wee/poo" are uttered

I have 3 DC. dd 19years old, ds 17years old and a dd 4 months old.

Just recently I realised how often I say, in a minute, I haven't got time, we'll do it later.

Sod this I thought. My little boy is asking me to spend time with him and who says having dinner ready at a certain time, shirts ironed, floors hoovered etc is more important than his needs. The domestic chores will still be there tomorrow but, it's not long before that little man won't be asking to spend time with me.

I've now spent some very enjoyable times sitting on his bedroom floor playing trains, reading, just talking and singing !! Very happy memories

icantbelieve i think it really is a case of if you can't beat them join them. Whats the point in battling out with in a min or wait a sec, when its going to result in groans and quite possible setting off an hour long grizzly period. Saying yes why not might interrupt your routine but 10 mins spared may well give you another hour free to carry on.
and your so right with one day he won't be asking.
I'm having a second go at motherhood having already raised 2 children who have lefy home. And i am enjoying every min. I'm fitting what i need to do around her rather than the other way around.