She's just got to get used to it.

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My niece is just six months old.

My brother and his wife are nice, intelligent, we get on etc.

They had problems bfing at first but now it's ok. SIL was gutted she couldn't exclusively bf but seems happy with mixed feeding situation. Plus the baby has started baby rice last week.

My brother told me tonight that his daughter screams for 90 mins every night at bedtime because she wants breast feeding. Apparently she's just got to get used to the fact that SIL isn't going to feed her at bedtime. I asked why and he said because that's what they want.

Eh? I don't get it. Why not just bf her, get her to sleep, bit of quiet and peace for everyone and happy baby? 90 minutes of screaming is an awful lot for a baby or am I being over sensitive? It sounds stressful for all involved.

SIL goes back to work at the end of November so it's hardly like they're training her to get of the breast now, is it?

I'm just perplexed. Anyone cast any light on this rationale?

Amen.

My DS does like the breast to settle himself even though, as I'm mixed feeding, my milk supply must be limited. I actually think it's closeness / comfort that he gets from being close to me rather than nutrition, IYSWIM

I happily let him fall asleep on me and then transfer him to his basket, but DS is only 10 weeks old.

I agree with wannabe.

She doesn't want to bf her baby anymore so her baby will have to get used to be not being bf anymore.

My friend recently stopped bf her 18 month old and she had a couple of weeks screaming, it wasn't nice for either of them but she had decided she wanted to stop.

Ds is nearly 4 and at some time point I am going to have to "train" him to go to sleep on his own because I am pulling my hair out having to sit on his bedroom floor for a couple of hours a night waiting for him to go to sleep. I expect there will be tears but he will have to get used to it.

Agree with wannabe.Lots of assumptions being made here.

Of course 90 minutes of screaming non stop, left alone, would be wrong. Very wrong.

But we don't really know that that is happeneing. I suuspect it is more that it takes the baby 90 minutes to go to sleep, with parents going in and out and baby crying when they leave the room, etc. Again, another assumption - but IMO a more likely scenario.

Have you spoken to your SIL directly about it? You could mention that your brother said baby wasnt settling at night very well at the mo and you just wanted to see how they were getting on. She may be looking for advice or (as men so often do) your brother may not be relaying the exact story

Yep. Agree with wannabe. I had a screamer, and he would scream in my arms as well as alone in his cot.