OK, so what would your perfect family life be like?

Oooh, my wish list is:

Having more money and owning our house
Having another child (just one)
Part time au pair/nanny for school run plus 1 hour
Not having to work unless it was something I enjoyed, part time (like writing)
Losing a stone
Having a cleaner
Having more intelligent, interesting friends locally

Just realised they're all achievable (maybe) in theory so maybe I should make these my goals. Mmmm.

I would like to have enough money to be able to choose exactly what house I wanted ... not have to be within a budget...
Would like someone to organise me ... and tidy up after me so that I could play with my son all the time!
Would like to be one of those people who doesn't put on weight when pg ... and get back into size 10s the day I leave hospital ... (still can't get into size 10s and DS is 3 ...)
Would like one of those children that sleep from 6pm to 8/9am (they DO exist ... honest ... my best friend has one ...)
Would like DH to treat me like a princess ... like he used to when we were young and in love ...
Would like to travel home to the UK once a year (First Class)
Would dearly love to have another baby ... in fact that would make the above fade into insignificance ...
Other than that my life IS perfect ...

In my dreams? A rambling six bedroom house with massive sunny garden. Lots of money so could work only when I felt like it and have live in help, at least one more child, happy, sunny-natured, bookish children who slept through from six weeks or so, daily cleaner, regular fab holidays in the sun during the winter and er, that's it. A lottery win, basically.

I'd like to be skinny too, but that's not about family life, is it? Maybe if I was that rich the combination of no deadine-induced overeating and a daily personal trainer would help.

I'd like everything all neatly filed away and in its proper place all the time at home, so that when we had to find it there would be no scrabbling around at the last minute.

I'd like a car that stayed in immaculate condition all the time, not littered with crumbs and goodness knows what... so that if you unexpectedly offered someone a lift, there wouldn't be major embarrassment. (ie ds's teacher yesterday afternoon - still can't decide whether she said no because of the pile of stuff on the passenger seat... )

And if someone came to the door, I'd like to be able to welcome them into a clean/tidy house, with 2 smiling happy children playing beautifully together, or doing stimulating activities, with a smell of home cooking wafting through from the kitchen, and me and dh relaxing, and having time to chat... (or even time for you-know-what - but maybe not when someone was unexpectedly at the door )

So much for new year's resolutions...

Mind you, what I've described is exactly the life of Riley led by dh's poisonous ex (who also screwed nearly 60K out of us out of sheer spite). Except she doesn't work at all, has a daily housekeeper, two Mercedes, four kids, and is still a miserable cow. So there you go! Oh, and she's pretty fat, which cheers me up anyway!

1 - Children that eat, go to bed before 11.00, and who don't throw a dicky fit every morning when I try to dress them (I've worn that once before, etc etc).
2 - Two evenings off a year.
3 - One am/pm a week to sort out house
3 - Any sort of holiday which isn't a total disaster in my husband's opinion when it doesn't follow exact military prescision.
4 - A husband who speaks to me.
5 - A holiday without him (but with 2 dds, of course)

Make anyone feel better?

I'd like an extra hour in the day to sleep. About mid afternoon would be tops.

Another room in our house would be nice too, and a less icky kitchen and a car that puts itself through its MOT, and a less screwed up cat. Other than that my life is pretty much perfect already.

1. A permanently clean and tidy home instead of one which gets cleaned and tideied when mil or mother coming, and only tidied when friends coming.

Hmmm:

1: A bigger house
2: dp earning more money to get the pressure off of me
3: Another child or two...
4: To lose a stone
These are all quite standard 'wants' aren't they.
I would also like to suddenly find dp devastatingly sexy again and vice versa and for us to have the best sex life EVER!! >sigh

Basically only two things would make my life better....more time....and more money !!!!

More time for the kids, myself, and myself & DH together.

More money to do a few improvements to our house.
eg new kitchen,bathroom,windows & laundry room.

Both of which I'll get in September, when the boys go to school full time, we no longer have to pay child care fees and I have time to myself while their in school.
So I should then be the happiest woman alive !!!

6 months ago, it would have been the same list as everyone else, but now its just - a healthy dd with no more doctors appointments. That's it.

I think the old cliches are true, a sick child just puts it all into perspective. I've stopped worrying about anything else!

oops don't mean to sound pious...I'm just p*ed off with it all!!!

No that doesn't sound pious at all Lil ... I feel the same (although I don't have a sick child).

dh has been working away from home for a couple of months now - not long in the scheme of things I know but my biggest wish would be to have the family back together as one unit again. More money would be nice, but wouldn't make me happy. It's funny, I've learned that "stuff" doesn't particularly matter anymore, it's dh and ds that count.

But if there's any money going spare just going to waste, send it in this direction

I have to say I am pretty happy with what life has dealt me, I've got 2 healthy (if a bit boistous) boys, another one the way, A DH who loves us 110% even when I nag him because of hormonal sh*t. I'm able to stay a home to look after my children and not worry about money(although I'd like to be frivilous with it once in awhile) but the thing I would like the most is....no more D.I.Y on the house!
DH absolutely love D.I.Y so he always finds something to do, he's in the garden at the moment doing 'stuff.
So that's what would make me happy, the D.I.Y all done......oh dear that's abit sad isn't it, I should really be grateful and that he doesn't leave it for months on end, bless him.

Georgina its tough on your own isn't it. Is your husband back on weekends, or he abroad full time? I think the mornings are the worst, its that heavy sense of responsibility when you wake up, realising your children are totally reliant on you. Pressure, pressure .
But I think it does prove women really are the stronger sex!

Lil, IKWYM. When DD was diagnosed I really felt like I could go and live in a tent, as long as she could get through this. AFAIC, we've BTDT with expensive hotels and business class flights and brand new cars and I really don't care about them any longer.

My wish list would be:

• a slightly smaller home with lots more storage and better laid out than this one. Mortgage-free so I could never lose it
  
  
• some part-time, term-time only work that I could do out of the home where they didn't mind if I took time off for DD's hospital appointments
  
  
• a cleaner who popped in for an hour or so every day because I truly hate cleaning
  
  
• friends who lived around the corner or even next door so we could pop around to see them easily
  
  
• friends for DD who also lived round the corner/across the road
  
  I'd also like a National Health Service that operated at the same speed as private health care instead of shunting you from one waiting list to another, wasting children's lives away.

He's back at weekends, so I know I have it easy compared to some women! That knowledge just doesn't seem to help though!! Doesn't help that with the stress we've been more and more ratty towards each other during our precious weekend time

Money has been tight too, but I'm quite amazed with the amount of things I have managed to cut back on, so perversely I'm actually feeling happier and more in control of it than when we didn't have quite so many constraints. Mind you, that attitude might not last long, depends on the next set of bills

I also want snow at Christmas, log fires, long summers for endless picnics in the park/country, blossom in the spring from our old apple trees in our enormous sunny garden, roses round the door, homebaked perfect scones with jam, Pimms in the summer watching children play perfectly happily, amicably and independently, long lie-ins at the weekend, sandcastles and sandwiches on the beach, buns for tea, no worries about bills, no laundry, just perfectly ironed, lavender scented sheets in a big linen press on the landing, none of us ever to be ill even with a cold...peace on earth... both grandmothers to be there forever... this is Fantasy Family, isn't it?

All that, Aloha, and thin thighs

SueW how is your daughter? I meant to ask you also, you mentioned you use a website to talk to other parents about your daughter, is this specific to her problem or more general? My dd's problem is so rare I can't find a specific 'support' network, and even though I've combed the net I can't find anyone out there. I really can't believe dd is the only baby in the world with CLD, but even my consultant can't help. Do you have any ideas?

Oh what a fantastic thread. Its hard to know where to start! I guess this is the list I dreamed up BEFORE I married and had kids

4 perfect, healthy, beautiful, artistic, incredibly intelligent children who adored and respected their parents and were quite accepting of family values such as children having 'chores' (think 'Little House on the Prairie'

A husband who was as in love with me now as when we first met and showed it.

A beautiful, intensely passionate marriage, making love every night with wild abandon.

Space from above perfect children to 'rediscover the old times' with my perfect, handsome d.h.

Loadsa money and a large and charming country retreat as well as the Paris appartment

An ability to speak French well enough to live in flash Paris appartment

To be gorgeous and to have every man and woman I meet thinking "if only" but be faithfully only to d.h because we are truly 'in love'

To be a really good person and, despite my wealth, good looks and charming personality, I prefer to spend my free time, not shopping, but working in a local hostle or soup kitchen to help those less fortunate than myself

The only part of my fantasy life which has so far come true is the being faithful bit

Having said all this, I have just heard the hailstones outside, have just tucked my kids up into their nice warm beds, and I guess, TBH, I am grateful that although my fantasy may never be a reality, we have a roof over our heads, are fed and warm and loved.

Awwww !!!!

Also keen on raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens

know what you mean lil. I'd swap everything for ds1 to be able to talk.

lil- don't answer if you don't want to- what is cld? I thought it was chronic lung disease but I'm guessing it's something else. It's just I knew someone who's baby had chronic lung disease- he's doing really well now.

Lil - the group I use is at Yahoogroups .

Lots of rare disease lists were set up, I believe, by the person who runs www.raredisorders.com/ which sounds great from the blurb on the front but at the mo it a good idea which needs lots more people involved and a lot more padding. At the moment, IMO, it's a bit of a shop front but the people who run it seem to have plenty on their plates anyway with their own children's conditions.

I only found the yahoogroups list because I use yahoogroups for other communication e.g. NCT and thought it might be worth a search there.

If you want any help looking around, I'm happy for my email address to be passed on so you can contact me offlist.