Can you train a child to be dry at night or is it a physical thing?

[Poppychick]

Any opinions on this?

oh yes, unfitmother - our ds is a disconnector too - you have to use a baby monitor so that it wakes you up too, and then you can charge into the room loudly doing the lights on/ shouting/ noise/ out of bed routine. they soon work out it's easier in the long run to get out of bed and pee quietly.

DD1 almost 5yrs. DD2 3.1yrs. I have done nothing different. Different children. You can not train a child to be dry at night.

agree, I think it's hard to 'train' a child to be dry at night. DS2 reliably dry at night at 2.10 (no help from me at all). DS1 still not dry at over five and a half. Just two different children. I reckon when they're ready, it'll happen.

I didn't even consider it until we went on holiday, had a few glasses of vino and I forgot to put a nappy on at bedtime
In the morning - voila- dry sheets.

DD1 was still waking up with wet nappies but I knew she could hold it for ages in the day. DD1 was v slow to do poos anywhere buy nappy or pants, so in attempt to resolve this problem, I took nighttime nappies off as an experiment and voila! no nappies since! If I had waited until nappy was dry in mornings I would still be waiting i think.....

The hormone thing makes sense ..... after all, how can you train someone to do (or not do) something when they're asleep.

My son was dry during the night more or less immediately after being toilet trained when he was about 2.5.

My daughter though, despite being "advanced" (IMO anyway) in other areas, is almost 5 and I have only ever had 2 or 3 dry nights and none consecutive, which is what it would take before I risk no nappy.

I really feel for her because she gets terribly distressed by it. Obviously at her age she is well aware of what a nappy is and all the connotations with being a baby. I do wonder if she wees in it the minute she wakes up but then again when I've got up before her and woken her, the nappy's wet so I don't think it's that. She keeps saying "sorry" and "I can't help it" which is heartbreaking because I have never told her off nor criticised her.

I am interested however in the last posts from Litchick & Cookiemonstress who both had "success" simply by leaving the nappy off ...... as if the body can sense it's not "safe" to wee, and therefore doesn't ...... I've not been brave enough to do this yet but maybe I should bite the bullet or else I'll never know (and be prepared for possible bed changes in the middle of the night) ?