how do you start to discpline an 11 month old

[bumbly]

starting to winge and cry a lot and def don't want him to be such a baby - but a good one!

need tips

already little one resents me for trying to do what is best for him...

so thread a bit sensitive for me at mo

Don't be shocked at OP, lth - bumbly's having a tough time right now. OK, bumbly, my favourite ever top tip. Tell your DS in advance A Lot what's going to happen - from the start of the day, give him an outline of what's going to happen, before you go out, give him a few warnings, if you need to take something off him, or get him out of the bath, tell him a few times before you do it. Aitch called it the "what-the-fuck"-ness of being a toddler - they're in their own little world, and suddenly everything changes and they just don't understand. Try to make access to dangerous things difficult (can you get a fireguard?), and then pick your battles - have a think before you say "no" - is it dangerous/expensive, or just inconvenient? Sometimes dd pulling all the pans out of the cupboard is noisy and a pain in the arse, but she's having fun, and is doing no harm, so then she "wins". Touching the barbecue is a lose for her, etc. And then distract, distract, distract.

Crikey!

Puffy - clearly you are unaware, but you have just used a word in a context that is really offensive. Please dont use it anymore

Bumbly - I think moving them away continually, and putting up fire guards etc are the best way around such things. DS was much like this, but 11 months is way too young for 'discipline'. It's rather more guidance at that age. He's a bit young to understand consequences etc.

Any tantrums he might be having will be due to frustration - which is understandable when you consider he cant move or communicate anywhere near as well as he'd like to.

Ok bumbly, sorry.

With ds4 i use ALOT of distration techniques.... and like habbi say talk alot about what happening. That really does work.

If not try a biscuit

Fo rteh 1st time I've reported a post. I think puffyllovetts post is awful and sooooo offensive.

oh gosh sorry everyone, i really, really didn't think when I typed that. I type faster than I think, a lot of the time.

I'm really sorry if I've offended anyone

I honestly didn't mean it the way it sounded. Tact isn't best known in my family - i was just trying to give bumbly some pointers...

sorry again

I don't think you can discipline an 11 month old bumbly. I tell my dd (12 months) "No" and move her away or distract her, but she doesn't really process what i say ...i say it more for my benefit, lol.

They will cotton on eventually but its a looooooooong way off yet

...also, i really wouldn't worry about him whinging and crying or throwing tantrums - he's a baby! its part of the territory!!( ...and it gets worse, eeek )

he won't 'become that kind of baby' if you are not strict about tantrums and whinging, it is a phase and he probably just needs you more at the moment.

He will learn that you get cross if he does something but he doesn't have a concept of it being right or wrong. Much better to move him away or distract if possible.

It is really tough when they have these phases, my 17 month old has been like this for the last few days and it's maddening, he won't go to anyone else and seems to moan all day, but I know it will settle down again. It's such a short time really though it feels llike an age when you're in it.

raise an eyebrow and stare

not that it'll do any good, of course

be careful not to make bad behaviour exciting - I found that by jumping up and down when my DS did something dangerous (whacked TV screen with the poker was one) it actually seemed to encourage him to do it more. He knew I was cross but he also seemed to find my crossness exciting.

I think distraction/removal is by far the best way to approach things until they are a bit older - and making the environment as safe as possible so that you have to do less work. It's also much less stressful for you!