Found out that Iam having a baby boy - are they really so different from girls?

[Minniethemoocher]

Just found out that I am having a baby boy and after having a little girl I am panicking a bit with visions of a testosterone filled toddler running riot!

Are boys very different from girls? What do I need to know? Apart from that they can pee in the air!

Should I start reading "Raising Boys" or something?!!

Don't get me wrong, I am sure that having a boy will be great, it is just a step into the unknown.

I have two boys ( and a girl ). The boys are very different from one another. One is very energetic and noisy and not affectionate. Is quite geeky ( likes lego and computers and reading ). The other is a little cuddlepie. Very very affectionate and placid. I don't think you can gender stereotype them.

Kingprawn said "Boys seem to be more boisterous and active in their early years but in their teenage years are definately easier than girls. Less hormonal, more even tempered"

I still don't think that's because he's a boy, though.
One of my ds in particular, was/is definitely not easier or less hormonal or more even-tempered in his teen years.

I had 2 girls, and then a boy.

DS is 7.5mnths

He is FAB! The girls are great, dont get me wrong, but he is just so laid back and chilled out. He entertains himself crawling and playing, where as the girls needed (and still need) entertained.

Hoping he stays this way into toddler years, but fear he will take the chance to cause havoc as the older ones will be at school by then!

I love buying blue though, such a difference from pink!

The Boy SmallDragons seem to be far simpler creatures than BabyDragon. That's not to say they're easier per se but if you feed them and let them run about they're usually fine. BabyDragon is far more complicated!

You only have to look around a school playground to see the differences between boys and girls. Obviously there are exceptions but the boys are generally v active - running around, playing football etc and girls sitting down clapping, making daisy chains, skipping and chatting.

I call my 3 boys my 'puppies' - they need exercise every day and roll around on top of each other all the time. None of my friends girls are like that!

That is not to say boys don't sit down and write stories/draw pictures, they do (my eldest ds in particular does this alot), and all 3 like to read quietly. But anyone who says they are not different is bonkers!

I'm bonkers, then

You are not bonkers juuule, just an exception to the general rule. Neither is better really, boisterous is great, quiet and gentle is great, a mix is great, girls are great, boys are great.

But as a general rule boys tend to be bouncier than girls, it isn't a good or a bad thing, its just a thing

I totally agree Morloth.

i think boys are easier to manage than girls;you don't need to be reading up on anything..just show your motherly love and all will be fine!

"boys tend to be bouncier than girls"

I'm still not sure.
Boys do tend to do the running around after a ball thing in the playground that most girls are not as keen on (mainly due to the barging). But they seem to put as much energy into running round playing catch or skipping in our school playground.
I also think that girls are told to stop "bouncing" much sooner than boys are told to stop "bouncing" so maybe that skews the appearance of girls boisterousness at a young age.

Yes, please ignore the stereotyping. I have one boisterous, climby DD and one boisterous, climby DS. Both adore insects and getting muddy

i find ds infinitely easier than dd.

he's more loving and cuddly, more in tune with peoples emotions, more easily entertained, calmer and easier to get on with in general.

obviously that's my ds and my dd and everyone's are differnat but in general i do find boys easier to handle than girls

the only downside was nappy changes were an adjustment.... be prepared to have pee shot into your face

DS wee'd in my porridge once - it was on the other side of the room, was so impressed!

numberjill... my dd is the crazy poo obsessed house wrecker and toy destroyer.

ds is the cute one who says thank you for everything, apologises when he has an accident on the floor and thinks he's a small black and white cat called Blue

Pinktulips

Maybe I just have a girly ds then?

Well maybe, but that is only a problem if you think being girly is a bad thing!

I can only speak from my own experience, others have a different experience - its all cool.

Boys are fantastic! I think they are a little bit like dogs, as long as they have plenty of exercise and fresh air every day to let off steam they are very loving and loyal to their mums!

Indeed Sponkle - lovely ds just this minute said he wants to marry me when he grows up

my ds used to pee on everyone when having his nappy change, except the person changing him. he always got the doting aunty/uncle/friend who decided to stand at his head end-cos it was safest there
was very impressed at his aim even at a few days old straight over his own head to get whoever was standing there

"I can only speak from my own experience, others have a different experience - its all cool."

Yeah that's fine - but somewhat undermined by statements such as this:

"But as a general rule boys tend to be bouncier than girls, it isn't a good or a bad thing, its just a thing."

❤️

Tbf my daughter also does that 😂

Honestly before I had one of each I assumed it was due to parental and societal influence (ie telling girls to be less bouncy, buying them dolls, dressing them in pink and the opposite for boys).

But, I actively have tried to have a variety of toys/clothes/activities on offer for both DS5 and DD2 since they were born. Not raising them as gender neutral, but actively trying not to force any stereotypes on them. However they both adhere to stereotypes more often than not. What I love is they're influencing each other now. DS didn't show any interest in dolls/pink/colouring until little sister did, but now if she's doing it he'll join in. Likewise she isn't bothered about cars and dinosaurs unless she's playing with DS. Before DD, DS and I were outside for hours every day regardless of the weather, but she's more indoorsy so now we do a mixture. I could go on and on. Life feels really lovely and balanced now. Long may it last!!!

Oh this made me laugh. One of my DTwins was telling (sligtly horrified!) Grandad all about poo today. That his sometimes looks like a chocolate I've cream, but he prefers it when it's like a big sticky slug. DD never talked like this 😂