my baby has just cried on and off since weve got home from hospital and doesnt seem to be able to settle properly[sad]

[copingvquietly]

im feeling a bit worn out!ive tried to doze but he goes from crying to literally trying to climb up me?
anyone else with experience of this?

i will ask her.im going to call her tomorrow.im not really functioningim so tired

CVQ, being in hospital is exhausting for you too. The stress can be very draining. Try and nap and asks for some help.

hes off again

Hey you

want a visitor at the weekend?

I will take him for a walk for 2 hours so that you can rest?

msn soon?

god im really bloody fed up and moody as hell this morning and mum cant come and see us until friday.its going to be a long bloody week.

Do you have anyone else you can call on?
Where do you live?
Can you take Norma up on her offer?

I do feel for you, I remember feeling totally desperate and I wasn't even on my own

oh yes they are great!
Do you have any baby einstein dvds
i seem to remember getting respite from then when dd was small...

I could see if I have any still (may have given away) and post to you. Think they may be videos though as I don't think we had a dvd player then

i remember being completely desperate in those first couple of weeks. it can be so difficult, but it will change.

i don't know if this will work for you... i can't remember exactly when i started using it... but my ds needed white noise to settle. Apparently the womb is quite noisy and lack of noise can be strange for some babies like mine. Different sounds worked for him at different stages. I think the first one that worked for me was a hairdryer; not close to the baby but in the background. Then the extractor fan in the kitchen. Vacuum never worked for me. Neither did cds of white noise.

Hope it eases for you soon.

thanks.think im close to the rocking and dribble stage.if i could get him to sleep longer than an hour and a half at a time id be ok.its like torture.
ive got something called baby IQ but hes not really bothered tbh.hed rather listen to music.
god i wish i could snap myself out of this

tp the baby in question is 8 months old and has just been in hospital with meningitis (rather than a newborn)

You are right - it is like torture.
Where are yoU?

north of bradford

ah
not v good for me! (am in London)
I bet some local mumsnetters would give you a hand though

cvq its awful hun I know cos my ds1 was in hospital several times with asthma- its not the extreme tiredness alone that consumes you its the million and one other things that you need to do i remember hving got ds1 to sleep in my arms in my bed the house was still and quiet it was about 11am and i was pg with ds2 and absolutely knackered having hd 4 nights in hospital and the bloody letterbox shook with letters that i knew contained cheques tht needed to be pid in so we could pay our mortgage i had to wake him up and go to town ....(dh was back t work) everything seemed to cause extra work even making a sandwich ws an effort.

I hope it gets back to normal soon for you- i live in oldham so nowhere near you to offer practical help unfortunately.

must read more carefully.

can you call your health visitor? (please correct me if i'm wrong about this)- the 'homestart' scheme has people come over to your home to look after baby while you get on and do the things you need to do for maybe an hour or so. any break could be good! my gp told me about it, but you have to be referred by health visitor.

i emailed the local one to me yesterday but someone else said the hv can do it for me.ill try and call her once i can talk without blubbing like a baby

you don't have to wait to compose yourself too much. they've seen it all before. and then will realise how much you need the support. they will understand.

Or ask your friend/NSF to call the HV for you?

she can see me in the morning.better than nothing i suppose

well it's a start.

have you ever done the toddler groups thing? if so, can you contact the organiser and see if someone from the group can visit you? another mum to share a cup of tea with will lift your spirits even if all you do is drink tea!

if not, give them a bell, as someone may be able to drop round. when your baby is up to it again, make sure you get to a group, as people will want to help out. i wish i were closer.

when hv does come round, please don't cover up. i think first instinct, when i meet people face to face is to make out that everything is okay, even when the reason for the visit is because it isn't. they can't mind read, so please feel free enough to no longer cope quietly.

thanks.tbh i dont even feel like im coping right now.i feel completely consumed by exhaustion.oh well were off to the drs now so ill see what she has to say.

hope drs went well.

hes go thrush in his mouth so weve got some Nystatin to use.i fell apart in the drs but tbh i needed a good cry.she got me some water and listened to what i had to say.needless to say shes doing her own referal to homestart for me.