how hard is being a student mum???????

[lucysmam]

I just wanted some advice really, I've always toyed with the idea of studing midwifery but i got into design instead and then had my lo (now 17mo). Thing is, how hard is it really????? As I don't want to apply for something and then find that 6 months down the line I'm really struggling to cope.

I'm a stay at home mum at the minute and do quite enjoy my relaxed life with my lo, playing and pottering round the house and swimming, and going to the park but I'd really like to do something which will benefit us and will give me a sense of achieving something!

Don't get me wrong though, Lucy's the best thing since sliced bread imo. But would like some input from others who know what it's like before I make any decisions.

Thanks

thanks, I will. How long does a nursing degree take, I've only just started looking into it properly but the ones I've been looking at are 3 years

child care if you are doing a course which involves placements needs to be carefully considered, as these may not be set hours and you need to study as well, a supportive family makes it easier

hey all, im a student midwife with a 2 year old im quite young so i get a lot of financial support from the university and NHS. it so rewarding look around your universities some do part time midwifery degrees over 4 years and they are aimed at women with children and families. it is hard work at times my son draws picturesof me with a book in front of me (LOL) but if it's somethign you want go for it!! hope this helped xxxx

thanks, I'm still thinking at the moment, it's just playing on my mind that I'll get accepted and then struggle to keep up with coursework and placements and stuff like thta as well as the household stuff. But yeah it's kinda helped cos i didnt know you could do part time so thanks for that little bit of info, I'll be investigating that when lo in bed tonight xx

i think finacially and time-wise it will be hard. you'll end up sacrificng one or the other.

Its hard but doable IMO.

I'm a single parent and also work in the term time, but what I find hardest by far is enough time at home to concentrate and focus on the reading and essays. Either I'm interrupted every five minutes and read the same page over and over again with nothing going in, or else I fall asleep after 2 pages!

I tend to do my essays when my dc are with their father, but if that doesn't work out it's HARD. But as I said, doable, and rewarding beyond belief.

Give it a try.

I think it will be hard but worth it. You will be training for a very valuable and much sought after profession. And your daughter will probably end up being very proud of you too.

It is certainly hard, but i would say if it's what you want to do, then go for it.

I have just completed my second year of an English degree whilst looking after a very active 'almost three' year old, and the most important thing i've learnt is that you have to have good time management skills!!

Hi being a mum and doing a degree id hard...but do-able. Essential being a good support network...husband, family and friends. I couldn't do it without them :-) I'm in my last year...midwifery...

AMAZING but really hard work.

All the best.x

as everyone has said, its hard but do-able..
and a good support network v important.
I am doing a law conversion course (basically getting a law degree but in 2 years (even tho its part time! ) so i can train to be a solicitor.
I am also a SAHM with a 2 year old, so basically my evenings and weekends are dominated by work for my course which sometimes is v depressing and not great for family time..
last year was my first year and it was a huge struggle but i stuck at it and in the end came 2nd in my year which i was gobsmacked about!It took a lot of tears/lack of sleep and lots of crises of confidence (soo wanted to drop out v often) but this year it seems easier - probably coz i have the confidence of having done ok last year.
My MIL and dh are my saving grace - MIL lives 200 miles away but comes down every 3 weeks for a few days to look after ds, and dh is endlessly supportive even though it means he has a lot of evenings on his own.. bless him!
All the best to you if you decide to do it

its the hardest thing I have ever done in my life, im knackered, stressed, broke. But i love it.

I would also love to do it.. but have decided to wait until my children are older,
i am single, and i think i would struggle with childcare to cover shift work. including nights...

i have decided i need to be in a position to give 100%

I'm not finding it too bad so far but am only in the 1st year, revising for exams might be another matter.

I am doing a 3 yr degree, travelling to Bath from Bristol with a 2 year old. Not a particularly fun journey at rush hour, but where is?!

Have managed to keep on top of my work so far by being strict with myself when I'm there... ie if she's booked into nursery all day but I only have a 2 hour seminar in the pm, I still get there for 8:30 am and do a solid day in the library.

TBH, the money I receive in grants, bursaries, science scholarships etc matches what I made as part time PA anyway so money not a big issue, plus DH earns ok money and tries not to grumble too much when I need stuff or want to go out!

Go for it.

Hiya - It is tough - especially with a pregnant brain but now is the time to do it. If you only have 1 and your Lo is so young I would go for it.

I should have completed in 18 months but ended up taking me 3 years! Pregnant 4 x MC twice, leave of abscence to have my DD and then pg again in final year!! Finally completed in June. It was really good in a way though as the course changed each year and I ended up being a student rep as I had been there so long to give feedback about the course progression etc.

The worst thing is finding time to do it all but you'll never know unless you try - good luck!