Exs new GF accussing DS of stuff he says he didn't do

[Morag78]

My kids went to their dad's this weekend and when they came home the girlfriend had a list of all the stuff they supposedly did wrong.

She reckons DS2 pooed in his hand and then threw it at the bedroom door and DS1 wiped it off and threw it at the cat.

She said that they made "Potions" using all her cosmetics, shampoo, perfume, bubble bath, bath salts etc and mixed it all up in the sink then made "bombs" with it using tissue which they dunked in the potions and threw around the house.

She said they went on sky games without asking and ran up a massive bill and loads of other stuff.

Ex takes her side but says he didn't see any of it happen but "she wouldnt make it up". She is 18, would she make this stuff up??

Is this for real? If so, why is a clearly hostile 18 year old being left alone with your children who are supposed to be with their dad?

I dont know, shes always seemed alright before but now ds's both say that when they go their dad goes out with his mates or to the pub and she is left looking after them. I'm wondering if this is why she's making stuff up so that I stop them from going and she doesn't need to look after them.

Don't send them until your ex makes a commitment to be with them. This is a ridiculous situation. Anyway, surely he would know if there was shit all over the house, all the shampoo was gone and there was a massive bill? I just don't get it.
How old are the children?

Surely, if they did all this then they were clearly not being surpervised. This is a fault of the adults (I use the word lightly) supposedly taking care of them.

And why, if they are visiting their dad, is he not there but down the pub??? If they were doing it, it would be a cry for attention.

Why should she be taking care of his kids??? I think their dad needs a good talking to.

Are they like this at home? I assume not. How old are they?

Firstly I would be telling your ex that he should not be leaving the children with his girlfriend. They are there to spend time with him, not her. She probably doesn't want to look after them and tbh why should she. Saying that, she should be telling him she doesn't want to look after them and not making up stories. She is obviously a little besotted by your ex and does everything he asks and doesn't know how to tell him that she doesn't want to look after his children.

He has them to stay then goes out?? He clearly isn't very committed. I would keep them with you until that changes. If you were picking a babysitter you definitely wouldn't pick her under other circumstances so you don't have leave your sons in her care now either!

The potions story sounds plausible - I can imagine my children doing this if they were left to their own devices! If she is 18, she probably doesn't realise how much supervision they need. Since they have complained about the behaviour, you have a perfect opening to say 'well don't leave them alone then' (obviously nicer than that!).