DD1 (5) bedwetting every night need advice

[yoursurroundedbyarmedbastards]

After reading the other thread about the 7 year old still in nappies at night. This got me thinking about dd1. She is wet every night, sometimes the mattress is literally dripping with pee. It really upsets her and she gets awfully embarrassed about it. I don't tell her off of course give her a cuddle and just routinely change the bed every morning. She was late coming out of nappies but has been out of them during the day since she was 3 and a half. I took the nightime nappies off her about 6 months ago as I thought because she was wearing them she didn't feel the need to wake and go the toliet. I thought after a few weeks of bedwetting she would wake but she didn't.

So I started lifting her twice in the evening before I went to bed. Sometimes this would work and she would be dry, but more often than not she would still be wet in the morning. It's got that bad that I'm going to have to get a new mattress because even though I sponge it down it's started to smell.

So my question is should I put her back in those huggies nightime nappies you can get for older kids? Will this set her back, or due think it may help because she won't be embarrassed about having a wet bed? Or will she feel like a baby because she's got one on and her little sister (22m) also wears a nappy?

that was meant to be do you not due

I personnaly would not put her back in pull ups etc, but would continue getting her a few times during the night.

Can I just ask, does she drink a lot? ~I was advised to keep my dd off blackcurrent juice while she was coming out of nappies, and I also didn't let her drink too much after tea time.

Good luck, you will get there

there is lots of research around saying that if they aren;t ready to be dryt at night than lifting them won't make a lot of difference. I haven;t seen the other thread, but I 've posted about my 6 year old DS on here before and got lots of advice.

Apparently it;s all due to whether enough urine suppressing hormone os being produced and this usually resolves itself by the time they are seven.

We have only recently taken DS out of nught time pj pants as he asked himself for this to happen. We do still lift him once (his crunch time seems to be in the first few hours after he has gone to bed) and he is dry most nights, but some nights he is wet twice. He is starting to wake up when he realises he is wetting so I think this is prgoress.

FWIW I would be inclined to put her back in pj pants for a bit as constantly being wet must be undermining her confidence (I know what it does to my DS).

Re the bed, there are lots of waterproof mattress protectors out there to avoid your bed getting wet. We bought some reuseable pads like the pampers bedmats, they have paid for themselves several times over inspite of being £15 each. We have one of those on top of the sheet and then a waterproof fitted sheet under the bed sheet.

there is some good advice here

sorry about the typos, very tired and need to go to bed!

get a waterproof bedkit from argos

Bed wetting is not considered a medical issue until they're a teenager if thats any comfort

Avoid cordial and fruit juices before bed

Toilet after story

Lift her a couple of times, perhaps make sure she's a bit awake when you do

I'd put her back in short/pull ups for a bit to regain her confidence but still lift her

Waterproof sheet

Pretty much all you can do until she's ready to be dry

hth

in case you're thinking of getting that Argos bed set - it says handwash only that's really not a very good plan....

It is a good plan, because there is no cloth on it. It's vinyl. You can wipe it clean with washing up liquid and a cloth, dry it with a towel and put theb clean sheet back on. I know because I have it.

either get the bed kit from argos (which does work as I also have it), or get the pampers mats and put them under her instead....altho that is a very pricy way of doing things.

or, put her in pull-ups. I have just put my DS2 back into pull-ups, but that is also to save the duvet and he sleeps with it between his legs and there is only so many times I like sorting out a wet duvet!!!

DS2 is 6, has been dry during the day since a week after he turned two, and since then has had several attempts at night training....which go well and then he goes back again.

DS1 was also over 6 when we finally managed to stop lifting or putting him in pull-ups......and up until 7 it is not unusual to have some children who still wet.

if you do not want the pull-ups route tho, wet bed kit is the way forward.

Does the wet bed set make a lot of noise and does it make them sweat? Am thinking about getting it but am a bit worried that it would make his excema flare up.

no to sweating and no to noise IME. altho he does tend to sleep naked as he says he gets too hot....so maybe it is sweaty??

you could always use a mattress protector on top of the wet sheet, and then the sheet, see if that helps at all.

Thanks. Will give it a go.

Crocky, one of mine was wet long past 7, we went through the whole lifting/alarms/medication routine but dry nites were a huge help (and they are now freely available in up to size 10-15 (I think those are the ages) which gives an idea of how common it still is!)

Have a look at Snug Nights mattress protectors - we have some of these. They are comfortable to sleep on & machine washable (it doesn't specify temp).

The more expensive ones are washable at up to 90 degrees.

Dry Nites website - all about bedwetting

tbh it sounds to me like she just isn't ready. I would go back to night time nappies.

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Oh dear, just realised it wasn't crocky who started the thread - yoursurrounded, yes I would agree that putting her back into drynites & cutting out the lifting would be easiest for all of you for a bit. Please tell her not to be embarrassed, lots of children go on wetting the bed for years & years, there will be others in her class but she doesn't know it because nobody talks about it.

She will grow out of it in her own time

DS2 8.8yrs still wets the bed occasionally. He did it constantly up until about 6.5yrs. DH lifted him every night but even though he did a wee on the toilet, he would still wet the bed.

I have gone back to the Pampers Bed Mats - just for my own sanity!

Sometimes I find wet pj bottoms in his drawer and realise what has happened. He does get embarrassed about it.

We try to make sure he does not drink at all after a certain time.

Funny thing is, he got himself potty trained before 2yrs - said he wanted to wear big boys pants like his brother, so being dry and clean during the day was a doddle.

I think they will just get dry in their own time.

Why don't you ask what she thinks? You could explain that you know she hates wetting the bed, that it is not her fault but is something that your body can only do when it is ready (and everybody's body is ready at different times), and that one idea is to wear drynites until her body is ready. If she hates the idea, you probably have to keep going as you are but I bet she will be relieved.

My ds (5) still regularly wets the bed, but it's mostly if he's had too much to drink and my hubby forgets to lift him, he also wets the bed if he is ill or if he is worried about something.

I bought a bed mat from Boots for £15, it's a square mat which I put under a sheet (I did put it on top of the sheet but b'cos my ds is a wriggler, I found it stays put under the sheet)

When he's wet the bed I shove the mat in the wash along with the sheet, it's also good if he is staying over with family, we just pop it in his case.

I was a bedwetter, and have had 3 bedwetters (it's hereditary).
Those bell and pad systems - you can hire them from firms or hospital enurensis (spelling!) departments are the go. One of mine just wouldn't grow out of it, and within a fortnight he was totally trained. It worked with me too. Once in a blue moon - particularly when they are in a growth spurt, and they seem to sleep deeper than normal, they will wet, but are all grown out of it by 10.

Make life easier and more pleasant for both you and her and put her in drinights or similar. I wet til I was 14 and wish they'd been around then.

Just in case this can help anyone!

www.ebay.co.uk/itm/Rodger-Wireless-Bedwetting-Alarm-/391269529669?hash=item5b197b3845

Look at the Eric website. I would put her back in drynites. My son was 8 when he suddenly became dry.