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A Day in the Life of a MUMMY...

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DazedEmma · 06/07/2008 19:12

MON, TUES, WED, THURS, FRI, SAT, SUN...

What are you routines, what do you do on each day? When is your YOU time, do you have set days/evenings baby free to have some time with your dp/dh/friends?

Motherhood is fast approaching, just want an idea of a REAL mothers life... they butter it up so nice when asking midwives etc.

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littleboyblue · 06/07/2008 19:17

All babies are so different so it's hard to fully prepare or plan.
You could have a really good baby or a not so good baby, afraid you'll have to wait and see.
Accept all offers of help on anything and everything in the early days.
I found, I didn't even wanna go out. If I had a chance to be aeway from ds, I wanted to go to bed!

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nickytwotimes · 06/07/2008 19:20

It's changed over time.
Despite not being especially 'materbnal' before ds arrived, I ddin't trust anyone to take him out of my sight. When he was about 5 mths, I started to lighten up and Mum took him for a wak#lk every couple of days.

I'd say it was really when he was about 1 year and was in a routine and slept well all night that i really wanted 'me' time - up til then, it wasn't even on my mind.

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NormaStanleyFletcher · 06/07/2008 19:24

time with dh is at home when they are in bed, and for the first few months that was a movable feast (quite often it would be none)

Me time was the couple of hours when she would sleep during the day(not all in one lump), but if I had me time then no housework or cooking at all got done

sorry

it completely takes over your life.

most of the time I found that I didn't mind - but not all of it

DANCESwithLordPottingtonSmythe · 06/07/2008 19:27

Well this morning I got up, put on some washing, put out some other washing. Helped dd decorate fairy wings, tidied up, tidied up some more - actually made dc tidy up which is far more torturous than just doing it yourself. Unloaded dishwasher. Made vat of soup. Unloaded and put away dry washing, put more on. Made DC lunch. Cleared up. Sat down with computer for a bit whilst dc watched t.v. then dh came home from weekend away. Went to a friend's house for tea. Dh bathed children while I (guess what) tidied up. Oh the glamour

MissingMyHeels · 06/07/2008 19:28

'Me' time is very important for me so P usually has DD once a week so I can go out/have long lunch/get hair done etc and my Mum has her once a week so we can do something as a couple.

DD is 16 weeks and this has been the case since she was about 4weeks old. She also goes to the gym creche a couple of times per week.

During the week I do various activites most days:
Mon - Baby Swimming
Tue - Baby group @ church
Wed - Meet ante-natal friends and babies
Thur - Lunch with friends (usually take baby to see child free friends or sometimes to see her Daddy for lunch)
Fri - Weekly shop and potter around local town

Weekends - Proper clean of the house and various family and friend related things. Have been away a couple of weekends to see friends.

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DazedEmma · 06/07/2008 19:29

so in a nutshell, planning isn't an option, me time should be used to sleep, wine at lunch with the girls will be a coffee somewhere with a high chair and I won't feel like I'm missing out on anything becauseI'll have a beautiful little girl! Woo, I can't wait, i'm so excited!!

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DazedEmma · 06/07/2008 19:30

mmh are you young? You sound like friends/you time is quite important to you. I'm 20 and that's how I feel...

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MissingMyHeels · 06/07/2008 19:31

I think you will be able to plan but you need to see what sort of baby you have/what sort of Mum you are first. It's impossible to guess!

MissingMyHeels · 06/07/2008 19:31

Yes I am in my early twenties

littleboyblue · 06/07/2008 19:32

I know it's sounds tough, but it's all worth it. I used to be a wild girl, out all the time getting drunk and playing with the boys (until I met dp 2 yrs ago, and we are expecting 2nd dc in feb), but motherhood is just the best. It took a while to get used to but now I love it.

DANCESwithLordPottingtonSmythe · 06/07/2008 19:33

Yes sort of... Motherhood is great and wonderful thing, you will feel love like you have never known. You will also feel exhaustion like you've never felt, lonely, bored etc etc. The love thing makes up for it though. Just be prepared it's not like the pampers advertisements and you'll be fine. Oh and MAKE MUMMY FRIENDS...it's vital. Can't emphasise that enough.

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DazedEmma · 06/07/2008 19:34

none of my friends have babies and are all super shocked they'll be a little baby in our group as of Sept. I'm so excited but I still want to be able to see them, they're so important to me being as my EX changes his mind like the wind whether he wants to know us or not!

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lizinthesticks · 06/07/2008 19:35

"You time"...

...thinks...

...Nope. Remind me again.

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DazedEmma · 06/07/2008 19:36

hahaha! I love this site, you're all SO honest! x

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MissingMyHeels · 06/07/2008 19:36

Aww Emma - I have a P just like that. We're off and on more often than a whore's knickers.

Do you know what though? My baby is the love of my life now so what he chooses to do/not do seems rather unimportant.

littleboyblue · 06/07/2008 19:37

Oh dear about your ex. I still see my friends that don't have children. Not quite as often, but that's because I don't make much of an effert these days.
You'll still see your friends and you'll make new friends at baby clinics and play groups. Don't panic too much about it, it'll all work out, might just take a while.
I was 25 when ds was born, he's now 11m.

micci25 · 06/07/2008 19:39

i was very young when i had my dd1 and no partner but i found my 'real' friends were very supportive and made efforts to keep in touch! i got a lot of help from my family and a friends brother babysat for me once or twice so that i could go out!!

it helped that i was the only one of my friends that had her own house!! takeaway and wine parties anyone?

im sure you will be fine.

RubySlippers · 06/07/2008 19:40

ok - the first few weeks were a whirl of no sleep and me or the baby crying and sometimes we both cried together

me time was actually managing to get in the shower before DH came home from work

good thing about small babies is that they are portable so DS was taken everywhere, either in a sling/buggy

things did calm down a lot and by around 3/4 months old we were all doing a lot better (DS also had hideous reflux which didn't help matters)

good luck!

ScottishMummy · 06/07/2008 19:40

congratulations on pg DE.every baby and mummy different, i did initially try the guru routine book. it made me feel inadequate and i cried

trust your instincts. dont let others overwhelm or bombard you with well meaning information

dont compare yourself to other mums

i was shocked at the amount of laundry a wee baby could generate. honestly it is huge

i do try set time for myself eg go hairdresser get hair doen.

meet mates

watch dvd

glass of wine. missed alcohol when pg. so nice to be able to drink again

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DazedEmma · 06/07/2008 19:41

I've ranted so much about him on this site ha... anyway, when I found out i was preggers he told me to he wasn't being apart of it, then he came back and wanted to make up for things, then he started making comments as if I was about to burn him alive or something, then this last week he has made his 'final' decision not to be a dad, he will pay for her (like she's a f'king house!) but doesn't want any contact and is prepared to allow me sole custody of her (before she's even arrived he's saying this!) so I just want to prepare myself as much as possible for her arrival. I'm a control freak and need a day by day plan - which I believe isn't always possible in motherhood

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littleboyblue · 06/07/2008 19:48

I'm a control freak too and hd a very strict routine especially in the early days, now I've relaxed a bit, I still have a routine in that I do washing and washing up at the same time, ironing at same time, baths same time ds goes to bed at same time, fed at same time etc.
And in the first few months, if he didn't feed at the right time, it was panic panic panic.
The one thing I that I never thought I would was I woke him for feeds which I now see was really silly and I think he'd have slept thru alot quicker if I hadn't.

MissingMyHeels · 06/07/2008 19:48

My partner and I were at our worst when I was pregnant - he felt he had no control and I hated him for not supporting me in the way I wanted.

Things changed a lot when DD arrived and whilst I don't know what the future holds for us as a couple he is now smitten with DD and will always be a big part of her life. This wasn't instantaneous though so try and give him time if he wants to be involved.

Be really kind to yourself - my friends have been fab. Do you have family around?

Where do you live (roughly)? Sorry am a bit off topic!

ScottishMummy · 06/07/2008 19:49

emma pre-baby i genuinely believed it was possible to have routine/control. i am an ordered person i like routine. BUT and here is the rub babies don't necessarily need/want your routine. so you have to go with the flow, let your body recover, take it as it comes

the only "routine" i stuck to was to get out daily for a long walk.that made me feel good

littleboyblue · 06/07/2008 19:50

I just had a look at your profile, I was petrified too, but it's really not as bad as you are imagining it to be, honest.