dh away until 14th July - please tell me that I will cope til then

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my dh is a sports coach on top of his full time job and so he has been away for most of the last three weeks (just come home for me to do the washing lol). he left yesterday to go to holland, and will be back on the 14th. i'm finding him being away makes coping with ds aged 2 really hard. normally dh would get up with ds at 6 giving me an extra 45mins sleep, but i'm having to get up early and i'm finding that by the time I've bathed ds and got him to sleep, tidied up and done washing etc its at least 11 so I'm absolutely exhausted. Doesn't help that I've got tonsilitis as well, and ds is pretty high maintenance. how do single mums cope? do other people's partners go away so much? - all my RL friends partners rarely go away for more than one night and even then they have grandparents etc to help out which we don't have. the next week and a half just seems like long exhausting drudgery.

bbay my dh goes away a lot too I treat myself when he is away to make it more bearable
I have one at school and a 1 year old so pretty full on my advice is to get out and about as much as you can it seems less demanding when you are out and there are other people around as well

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that was my plan and it normally works but I feel so germy and horrible with tonsilitis that getting out of the house is exhausting and also I don't want to share the bugs around.
thank goodness for cbeebies!

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christiana - ds does nap but I've been napping too because I've been so wiped out. Normally I do try to get up early for a shower which helps. It's just wierd that I always seem to get ill around the time that dh goes away.
dh is being 'helpful' by sending me concerned text messages telling me how he knows how hard it is. He's never looked after ds by himself for more than 6hrs. he has no idea.

I know they make me larf dh breezes in after two weeks abroad and says ooh what I'd like is a nice home cooked meal and to watch the telly aaarrgh

when he gets back, book yourself into a Travelodge with a pile of books and some bubbles and let your DH see how difficult it really is!

Get well soon.

My husband and I have a wonderful 5month old girl, but unfortuatly for the last year (and more than likely the next one) my husband has had to work 250miles away .His job only allows him to get back about once every 3 weeks so since DD was 2 days old i have been a single mum. It is a nightmare at times but I know that you can do it, and whats more enjoy the time you have to spend with your child. My way of coping is to plan my days ahead, making sure I have something positive to do each day. I have the added challenge of being without a car but by keeping our lives busy, I suddenly find that I get to bathtime, with little upset and thats another day nearer to husband coming home.
On the occasion when I have been feeling ill or not up to getting out, DD and I have just snuggled on the sofa and enjoyd playing games and having really good Mummy time. We even spent last Sunday afternoon playing in a big bubble bath because it was so wet and miserable outside.
Hope you feel better soon.