I live with my partner and our toddler who recently turned two. My Partner doesn't get involved with family life or seem that enthused about spending time together and it's making me so upset.
I do 99.9% of the childcare and housework. I don't mind doing the bigger jobs (e.g cleaning the bathroom) as I'm home earlier and work less hours but my partner won't even put his plate in the dishwasher after eating. He'll come home and go straight to laying on the sofa looking at his phone or play Xbox in the living room whilst I play/read with our toddler. I've tried talking to him about it but he just says he's needs to relax after work.
It's the same at the weekend. Any downtime he'll lay on the sofa and look at his phone. He won't play with our toddler he'll just put the TV on for him.
I appreciate family outings aren't the most exiciting but I just want to make some nice memories. Whenever we go anywhere, my partner will moan and say he's bored or just look at his phone. He won't join in with family photos. I've tried asking him what he wants to do with our son but he never gives any suggestions. We don't have to do expensive activities all the time, I'd be more than happy with a walk or going to the park. I've tried speaking with him about his mental health too, if he's feeling low or struggling but he says he's fine.
It's honestly breaking my heart we don't have nice family time. I just want to feel happy and loved and I don't feel like that at all. I'm lonely a lot of the time and so jealous when my friends speak about doing nice things with their partners.
I don't know what to do at this point. Any advice is welcome. We've been talking about another baby and I really want one but I know realistically there's no point having another one if I'm basically a single parent.
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