How do you deal with your children when they throw things at you when you are driving the car?

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It is dangerous and really distracting. My children are 6 and 3.

I have sent them to bed with a promise to cut their favourite soft toys to piecese next time they do it.

It is maddening. And my temper raising, when they do it is just an added dangerous factor.

I cant believe a six year old can be so stupid. And him doing it is setting a bad example to our 3 year old.

On saturday, I was driving in 70 mph and he threw my big flowery scarf in my face.

hmmm. Novelty. Naked riding. Can see my boys would find this great fun.

I have just showed my oldest some car crash pictures on google to illustrate what may happen.

Give them nothing that they can throw, no toys nothing.

how about gaffer taping their wrists to their car seats?

I'm sorry but I don't understand.
I am a bit .
I am not a perfect parent type but this is a safety thing.
You tell them in your 'this ia a fucking deal breaker' voice and they understand this isn't naughty - it is the end of the world if they even think about it.
The same voice you use for 'don't run in the orad' 'don't stab your brother with a knife'.

I am a bit that this is a problem.
My DS with profound SN even knows you don't do that.

You just chuck whatever they chuck at you out of the window - do not even speak - then when they are doing it on a quiet road stop the car reaach over and grab one of them and unwind the window - they will shit themsleves - don't actually do this though cause a bit mean!

We have just turned around and gone home again in the past, after bad behaviour in a car. Then they've gone to their bedrooms for a very very long time.
6 is quite old enough to grasp the concept of needing to concentrate and the damage that can be caused by a car crashing - in these circumstances I would have no qualms whatsoever about using scare tactics. Spell out in as graphic detail as you can bring yourself to use what might have happened on Saturday.

dd3 is a thrower. the other two never did it.

last summer i had to remove her shoes every time we went in the car.

this summer she is better.

she has thrown bottles at me, when she didm i stopped the car and yelled at her.

dd's also know not to drop things on the floor of the car, as i once had an orange roll under my feet when driving. mind you i think car manufacturers should put a block under the drivers seat to stop things rolling under there.

Would do an dramatic emergency stop (well, not on motorway) and morph into scary parent. The sobbing from the back would tell me if it was effective.

Seriously? Kids do this?

Pagwatch - i think that's a bit harsh. QS has not said it s frequent thing - I doubt many parents would stand for it more than a couple of times. Your DC with SN - whilst I'm sure can be naughty may have other things he does that if he didn't have SN would be even worse. I'm sure I'll get jumped on for that comment. What I'm trying to say is, if he didn't have SN whatever he may do might have more force, or more intensity.

When In I pull over nd stop the car.

I refuse to move until they calm down.

Hi MB - how are you doing? I mentionned you to my Mum at the w/e - she didn't get the whole MN thing. Still doesn't.

I didn't mean it to be harsh at all.
I am just genuinely surprised when people have trouble with truly dangerous rather than naughty behaviour.
that is not a criticism of anyone - just my view.
My point about his SN was just that even through his huge layers of communication difficulties he is still able to understand the difference between something being naughty ( which he actually finds funny ) and something which is absolutely a no go.

I wasn't trying to be harsh and I am not sure why you are expecting to be jumped on.
You clearly have no idea about my sons SN but why should you? His SN does not inhibit bad behaviour , his two NT siblings would not do that either.

The point I was just trying to make is that if it is truly dangerous then mostly even small kids can be made to see that. That was all.

Personally I think the gaffer tape suggestion is probably the best

Pagwatch - I guess I over generalised - most of the people I know with profound SN would not have either the physical ability, n'or the understanding to understand that throwing a soft toy etc at a car driver is dangerous. You are right, I know nothing about your son.
Gaffer tpae sounds good to me too. [

stop the car

leave them on hard shoulder

scrub that.
i am now with Bundle

pag

I remember reading something about Richard Branson once. He said that when he was a boy his mum chucked him out of the car and left him to walk home on his own due to his behaviour.I got the impression he quite admired her actions in hindsight!

Apparently he thinks that is why he is so successful because his mother believed that he could get home alone, independence and all that.

I agree with pagwatch.

I am not really sure why this has been posted as a problem. This is non-negotiable and should never be tolerated.

If my kids did this, I would pull over at the 1st opportunity, drag them out of the car and make sure they understood. This is one of the times, IMHO, where smacking is acceptable.

Any toy that was thrown would be immediately binned and NEVER given back.

But then I wouldn't even think this was a subject to be "discussed" with my children. One explanation, then swift and severe punishment, no question.

(why am i wishing I could lob something at the back of mrs f's head and then leggit - just to watch it in all its glory )

Just you dare !! Pagwatch, you will be sorry!!

Does that sound scary enough ? lol

Not had the throwing but definitely playing up. I do this: pull over. Tell them we will go two minutes after they have stopped playing up/throwing/whatever. Wait. Explain again quietly whenever you need to. Wait for as long as it takes. Pull over into service stations, laybys, whereever you can (er that's safe, obviously -- I've come off the motorway before). Try not to get cross and just wait wait wait.

It's a bore but after three or four times they realise you mean it and they get the message. But it is a real bore.