Looking for some advice if anyone has had similar issue and has found something that has helped. My mum is a good granny, she is caring and loving towards her GC and also has energy to do things with them, such as imaginative play, baking etc. My DD has always seemed to enjoy the time she spends with my parents. But recently it’s becoming a real issue that she’s refusing to spend time with them. She’ll say no to any suggestions I make for time with my mum basically. She can’t say why when I ask. I feel it’s some kind of protesting maybe or just wanting to say no. She can also feel a bit shy with them at first but usually relaxes soon to be herself. Whenever she’s been with them she’ll say she had fun afterwards.
I find this quite difficult as I feel the pressure to facilitate the relationship and enable their time together. But what can I say to my mum .sorry she doesn’t want to see you?! I recently asked my DD if she can think of any nice activity she’d like to do with granny and suggested things she’d like for sure, but she still said no. She’d want to do it with me, not granny.
My own relationship with my parents is strained but I try to not let it show to my DD. Also my mum and dad don’t have the best relationship between them but I doubt this is a factor as she also refuses activities with my mum alone and seems to get on with grandpa well as well, they have their own little humor etc.
Looking back to my own childhood, I wouldn’t have been eager to spend time with granny either. But then again she wasn’t one to play and put effort into the relationship with her GC. I feel this is quite said for my mum, who does really try and can’t say there’s anything about her behavior towards DD that could be faulted.
Anyone had similar and was able to change it?