What would you do in my shoes ?

[Abitconcerned]

I have three lovely daughters, aged 8, 6 and 4 most days they get a long really well and they are at a nice age, youngest starts school in September.
We want for nothing I have a nice car, don't really work, we have a good holiday every 2 years and weekends away in between. The girls have pretty much anything they want. We have a 4 bedroomed house, so everyone can have their own room.
BUT I want another baby, DH is not keen but will have one to shut me up basically and then things will tighten up, not to drastic stages but basically there would be a lot less shopping in M&S and more in Tesco's if you what I mean.
Would you go ahead ?

not if my dh said no

Theres more to having 4 kids than just switching supermarkets.

I would hope there is

If I'm honest, the first thing I'd do if I'd win the lottery would be to have more kids. But we just can't afford it, in the long run. I know, once you have all the stuff, little babies don't cost much but in the longer run it's very expensive and although in an ideal world, we would probably have 4 kids, we have decided to stop at two.

I understnatd your point, abitconcerned, but I firmly believe that the decision to have another child is a 'couple's' decision so I stand with thechicken.

I personally wouldn't unless my dh was 100% happy from the start. There would definitely be implications imo later on, too big a decision to make if he will do so only to "shut you up"

oh dear, i wish i hadn't turned up in here cos now i feel that i want to post too

As a family also with three DC but a three bedroom house, we are hoping to move to something with the extra bedroom in the next few years but it depends enormously on the housing market. It isn't just bedrooms either, most things are just out of our budget to get the 'whatever' would be the right one; so we seem to spend a lot of time doing cunning shopping and robbing-peter-to-pay-paul style budgeting in order to do the best we can. Would you feel like this if you have another child - like you are always in need of something that is just out of reach? If your DH isn't keen on having another one then listen carefully to his logic before making any decisions, he may have a point. Agree with Blueberry [and in our case we 'stopped' at two and got the bonus third .]

Definitely wouldn't have another DC if DH wasn't 100%

Tough call if your instincts tell you to go ahead but DH is against-not fair to him to disregard , so you need to talk it over.

I wouldn't say he's against, he just wouldn't choose to have another if I said it's up to him, does that make sense.
DH I guess isn't the issue here it's do you live a wonderful life with 3 never having to worry or do you go for the 4th which might mean sometimes you have to say no to the 3 you already have (in my opinion no bad thing).

I'd go for it!
My DH wouldn't have had children again (he already has three) left to his own devices, but agreed all the same. He has put his foot down at a third, though (boo hoo). But if your DH hasn't said no, I'd definitely go for it...

my dcs are the same ages as yours, and i go through a two yearly broody cycle. i have two labradors as a result.

i'd have another on a heartbeat, but as dh had a vasectomy immediately after dd2 was born (she had a lot of problems and our intitial reaction was 'no more! we can't go through this again!') there's very little chance unless i pluck up enough courage to float the 'do you think we did the right thing' discussion.

clearly, i can't get anywhere without talking to dh - but probably talking it through again with your dh so he knows you're not just on a whim, is your best bet...

i'd be saying a lot more 'no' though, to practise...

Thank you all
xx