DD told me that a member of staff at nursery hit her - sorry long

[milliec]

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Tbh I can't see how a keyworker could get away with hitting a child but I may be naive. Also why would she risk losing her job?

Could DD stay in previous room for a few months?

Childminder? They're usually more flexible and cheaper.

I'd be concerned- even if it's true she wasn't hit, i'd have a niggling doubt somewhere (but maybe that's just me)

There's usually more than one member of staff around though, isn't there? I'd have thought someone would have seen it happen if it did

Was there anyhting in the accident book about it?

she's 2.8

she makes up stories

do you really think a nursery worker is going to slap a child? across her face too? hard enough to leave a mark?

if you do then find alternative care .. you have chosen the nursery with care I assume they have a good reputation

it is impossible for anyone else to judge really .. can't see the mark .. haven't met the nursery staff

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My DS came out of nursery with a horrible bite mark on his arm. The bruising lasted a week.
He is 2.8 as well. I asked him about it a couple of times and he kept saying Jo bite me.
Jo is his key worker so I dismissed it without further thought.
Turned out (after joking about it with key worker one day) that there was a new boy called Joe that did it.

Is there someone else with a similar name there?

agree with twig..

also, is it possible she was hit accidentally? my friend hit DD , totally by accident, with a small wooden box, she picked it up to move it, DD was behind her , as she swung round to put the box down, she lamped DD in the head!

total accident, but DD had a big bruise

or that your DD is fibbing?

i imagine any sort of accident would go in the book?

I actually had to go back into school and insist that they recorded it the accident book when my dd came out of school with three huge scratches down her face. It had been done by a younger boy at lunch time. The teacher (who wasn't present when boy scratched dd) said it was an accident, dd said he did it on purpose. Teacher didn't believe it was necessary to record it. 6 years later dd still has scars on her cheek and the boy was removed from the school by his mum after several other dcs were accidentally kicked, bitten, scratched etc. I'm not upset with the boy..he was only 4 and did have some behavioural difficulties. I was just cross with the teacher for not acknowledging that my dd's injuries were cause for concern and did nothing about it. She didn't even bother to come out with dd when I picked her up and explain what had happened. She was just sent out with the other children and I had to ask her what had happened to her face. They were quite deep gouges not superficial scratches.

Millie, it does seem to be very unlikely your DD was struck by nursery staff given what you've said about it's reputation etc, but I think they ought to provide a reasonable explanation for a mark on her face - what did they say had caused it?

Seems very unlikely. My DDs have at that age said that people have hit them too, often in ways that could not possible be true (when the accused person hasnt even been there, or when I have been there and would have seen).
Sounds like you have lingering doubts though, sounds like you are maybe having doubts about other aspects of the nursery?

Agree with others. Little ones make things up - my eldest 2 never have but ds3 surprised me just a few months back when he asked me for something when I upstairs in the bedroom, I said no so he went downstairs to the kitchen and I heard him say 'mummy smacked me' and I hadn't even looked down at him from doing my make up, never mind touched him!! I was so shocked, I don't know why he would say it!

So, I think it's unlikely that a keyworker would do that tbh - not in a day nursery where there are lots of other people around.

They should have the mark down in the accident book and be able to account for it. That much you can expect of a nursery.

But I have to say both my children at that age and later would regularly blame others both for accidents that had happened when the supposed aggressor was not there and for injuries they had inflicted on themselves (I got used to checking the angle of bite marks). I don't know why, it just seemed to be a phase they went through.

I know that some people say that you should always believe the child- but I would have had to believe that 6mo baby brother had been writing the letters of the alphabet on the carpet with a felt tip pen and that a relative had been nipping over from Sweden in the lunch hour to bite somebody. There were other times when I really could not know who had hit whom or done what.

Sorry, this doesn't help you at all, because you're still left with that nagging fear. Because sometimes children do tell the truth.

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You're life is full of incidents isn't it mc?

What's happened about the that girl who shouted at your dd in the shop?

or Your even

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if you were thinking of taking her out anyway, then you must have other doubts about the nursery, which is why you have doubts regarding the truth. perhaps best to get alternative care.

DS would claim "Daddy hit me" for a while ever time he fell over and bumped himself within a 20-foot radius of DH, even when (as was generally the case) there were half-a-dozen people who'd seen the whole thing. DH was very embarrassed.

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