My Jeremy Kyle life has been on here for a while now but in a nutshell....2 years or so ago my H had an affair with a bunny boiler who wouldn't accept that he was coming back to his family...and accidentally got pregnant - her baby is nearly one...
There is a lot more to the story - H and I have elder DD who is nearly 7, and have a baby (conceived during an attempted reconciliation) who is 6 months - we do not live together but are amicable and get on well...he sees her baby (I don't ask details they are not together...he says)..and sees my girls almost every day...
I don't want to get into a discussion/argument over him/her/children being equal - am aware of all of these points and has been discussed in various shapes on here over last few years..
What I would like is some advice - we have not told DD1 about OW baby - what with me getting pregnant H moving out etc was never right time.....also she is aware of affair (was too much shouting and screaming not to ) - she is also aware a little of what I think of OW (not all of it has heard me call her a cow so thats pretty mild TBH) - and not something I am proud of (that she heard not that I said it IYKWIM)....but as children get older, we all live in smallish town, H has my DD1 over to stay - I would much rather she was told by us than heard it from someone else or even bumped into them and wondered why some strange baby was calling her dadd, daddy - it is all such a mess and we have all been through so much especially DD1 - how do we tell her without causing yet more trauma