Does it get easier to accept being done having children?

[Sunny9842]

So I’ve got two young children 2 years old and 7 months old you could say we are in the trenches. It took me 2 years to conceive my first baby. Had a smooth pregnancy. Then when I tried for baby number 2 I had an ectopic pregnancy and lost my tube. Managed to conceive baby number 2 right after that and all went smoothly thank goodness.

I am 39 and my husband is 41. I keep looking at pictures of myself pregnant and the kids as newborns in those early days and I feel soo sad those days are done. Nothing is better than that special pregnancy and newborn bubble. It’s so magical.

DH is happy stopping at 2 kids. Finances, age, holidays, car size. All valid reasons. My head tells me that 2 is perfect , and so grateful for them, but I feel like I’ll never feel ‘done’ with having babies. Obviously we are no spring chickens. I know the risk for babies goes up with ages plus I had 2 sections. Also respect that DH feels done

Does it get easier to accept that you’ll have no more babies?

After DD2 was born, i found it hard to accept we were done, and we did think about potentially #3. But once I went back to work, that desire lessened. And then now that DD2 is over 2y and potty training, the idea of going to the newborn stage feels a lot harder. Im also 40 soon and feel like life is starting to get easier - DDs are playing together (5y and 2y), fewer night wakes. I still have the odd pang when I see a very tiny baby but on the whole I feel a lot more comfortable about our decision now.

Yes. I had a very tough time accepting stopping at two. We lost our first child, a DD had two more v stressful pregnancies and two living DS who are wonderful. My response to losing DD was to plan to up the ante and have four more but after DS2 (who had a rare condition in utero), DH was understandably done.

I was so sad for a very long time and especially if other people I knew had a third child or a DD but the feelings faded over the next few years. I would say once the decision was made and irreversible (DH had snip), it became a lot easier to accept and move on.