I'm a single parent with two kids, 10 and 8.
Eldest child refuses to go to school on and off - we always get her in but it makes mornings and evenings a misery - think screaming meltdowns, tears, lying on the floor howling. Has been like this since reception.
Youngest child has anxiety and OCD. Currently a furious tinderbox, very defiant, really rude, and lots of screaming meltdowns there too.
They're knackered with the end of term and setting each other off constantly in our tiny flat.
For context - I have 50/50 custody with their dad. Dad has blocked a CAMHS referral and an ND assessment for my eldest (despite agreeing there is ND there) and private therapy for the youngest. Refuses to answer any of my emails about the kids or attend meetings with the v lovely school SENDCO. Won't tell me how they are with him or let me contact them when they're there. None of this helps! I feel so frustrated that I cant get them (and me) the help we all need.
Feel really overwhelmed this week and hsve lost it a couple of times, which I hate. I love them so much, and they're such wonderful kids a lot of the time, but we're in a bit of a pain spiral before the holidays.
Any tips on managing two explosive kids at the same time? Am sure I can't be alone in the struggle.