Unfortunately I see myself as having been an adult child, a victim of my mum’s extremely volatile and unstable emotions. My parents have always had a rocky relationship until they separated in my adulthood. My mum has always poured her emotions onto me when it came to issues with my dad. When he cheated ( I know it’s wrong but my mum can be unbearable) it became my problem too because of her. My dad is visiting me and my family this week ( Overall i have a good relationship with my dad. He can be difficult at times but he’s manageable). My mum texts me saying that she ll be visiting her inlaws since dad is away ( my grandparents on dad side) as she’s been wanting to see them and not to tell dad. At this point I an raging. I don’t give a hoot about this. I have a toddler and a baby- they are my focus and not her silly desire to see my grandparents who she always railed against all her life. She just wants to be nosey and see my demented grandma to take pity on her because she’s retired and has nothing going on in her life. Anyway - I told her not to involve me in any of this anymore as I don’t want to be put in an awkward position where I am hiding stuff from my dad. She tells me I should reflect about all the things my dad hid from her and how she doesn’t understand why I hate her so much blablavictimvictim. Honestly How do I move forward from this? I have decided not to reply and I am tempted to tell my dad what she’s doing. She is great with my kids when we visit her etc but she is too manipulative/ narcissistic for me to have a functioning relationship with her