DS only ever poos in his pants

[VoluptuaGoodshag]

He's dry through the night, he wees standing up but poos are always in his pants. He is 3.5 and it's driving me nuts.

He knows what to do and I've sat him on the potty and on the loo and sat with him. Nothing happens.

He says he is scared of the loo so I said not to worry about it and just poo on the potty but he's never done it yet. He just completely ignores it and then when I'm trying to explain to him, he just says sorry and then laughs in my face.

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Hi,
My daughter is exactly the same. She is 2.5 and has taken to potty training brilliantly and is excellent at weeing in both toilet and potty, is dry at night, but will only poo in pants. She gets distressed if I try to put her on toilet or potty when she starts to poo, and is making herself constipated. Is this normal and should I just ignore it?

He will get there in the end. The more you push them to do it the longer it will take.
DS2 was ok weeing in potty and even dry at night before he finally did a poo in his potty.
And do you know what, it was when we weren't looking, or even in the same room. He must have just wanted some peace and privacy to do his poo.
Which I can understand, cos if I'm not relaxed and in my own bathroom I just can't go at all! He must take after his mum

Yep, theres nothing like the comfort of your own throne .

Volupta you have my sympathies. My daughter was just like this....weeing like gusto in the loo but crapping her pants daily. We tried alsorts to get her to do it..lining the potty with a nappy, bribes etc.

After about 4 months she sorted herself out and finally pooed in the toilet.

Someone explained to me that believe it or not it is harder for some children to recognise the feeling of needing to poo. They get the hang of holding their wee easily but the needing a poo sensation is hard to recognise. Do you think he knows that he needs one?? My daughter used to walk about with a turd in her pants and look at you as if to say "what??" when you pointed out she'd shat herself (again). I used to think how can she not notice she's got something resembling a melted Mars Bar in her pants?

Very frustrating.

oo bexie, seeing you on a thread about potty training...

Have now got ds2 potty trained and need to get shut of everything - a few weeks ago you showed an interest on a thread of mine where I was selling some stacinator fleece wraps and you didn't reply when I said the price...

Well they'll be back on next week at a much lower price so if you want first refusal just say so. I think I was after about £6 each last time but am going to put them for £4 each next week (and they were over a tenner each new )

Let me know if you still interested, won't be offended or if you're not.

it is a really common thing this pooing in pants malarky...my DS1 would only poo in a pull up... took him to reach the grand old age of 3yrs and 10mths before a sticker chart and the promise of a buzz lightyear did the trick. I was told by someone that it's often because the child feels like the poo is somehow part of their body and they dont like the idea of it coming out...like they are losing a part of themselves.

This drives me mad. My dd1 did it for months and now dd2 is going down the same road. She will poo in the potty but only if I hold her on and she cries when it comes out. If I leaver her alone she usually gets up and poos on the floor. I leave her in no knickers for ages in the morning and evening so she hasn't got something to erm..... catch it. She bobs on and off the potty for about an hour, then either does it on the floor or goes to bed and does it in pull-ups/

We had the same thing with ds1 when potty training and it was really frustrating. He seemed to have a real embarrassment about pooing anywhere but his pants and he'd try and hold it in or just do it in his pants and hope he'd got away with noone realising!! We just kept trying to get him to do it on the potty and reassuring him that there was nothing wrong with it etc. If he ever managed one we heaped loads of praise on him and quite often he'd take his potty in with daddy to copy etc and over time he became less self concious about it and it just resolved itself. Try not to push too much as it could make it worse and try and get to the root of why he can't do it on the potty. Hang in there - it will get better!!

Flibbertyjibbet, I didn't reply as I wasn't sure I needed them. Still not sure now.

My ds does this although he is getting better. I reckon it takes them a while to recognise the 'feeling' of needing a poo (if that makes sense).

Ds2 is 3.5 and last week I was thinking of starting a thread with exactly the same story.

The promise of a nintendo ds, however seems to have helped things along though and we've had no poos in pants for about a week.

Only trouble is that he was always really reliable with wees and he's wet himself 3 times in the last week.

Oh well, I expect it will have sorted itself out by the time he leaves home

I am quite new to this site and really enjoying the chat - I am lucky that my daughter potty trained really well (though we do still carry disposable potties in the car).

Without wanting to sound stupid..
Can someone tell me what the jargon means (DD, DS etc). Ive worked out the numbers are sibligs in order of age but what about the other bit.

For what it is worth our daughter stopped pooing in her nappy at 2.5 when she started socialising with kids her own age that had stopped wearing nappies. Quite simply she wanted to be like them. All we had to do then was be consitant and keep her out of nappies so she did not have the chance to lapse.

It will happen for you - ensure he has a lot of contact with children his own age that no longer wear nappies - help to get them to talk to him about how big they are now they dont wear nappies - it may influence his approach

Aha! D=Daughter S=Son !!!!
I feel stupid

Thank you all for replying. I am bribing him with the promise of a basket ball & hoop (it's what he wanted) but to no avail yet.

One of these days