Should I worry about possibility of alopecia?

[Waheymum]

My seven week old has her grandmother's hair type (according to DH; MIL lost her hair to alopecia decades ago). MIL is a narcissist and horrible about me behind my back. I don't want my DD to inherit alopecia (or MIL's personality). I've been worried about this since I asked DH who our DD has inherited her hair from. AIBU? Does anyone have any good stories about alopecia?

Of all the things to worry about, this shouldn't even be on your list. Your baby has baby hair. It's all fine and floaty.

No, you shouldn’t be worried about alopecia because a) it’s not linked to hair type, b) your child is seven weeks old and you don’t have a bloody clue what her hair is going to be like when she grows up, c) alopecia is a purely cosmetic condition and d) most people with alopecia don’t have any family history of it at all.

You sound a bit over-obsessed with your MIL, to be honest.

I have alopecia, not sure what you mean by good stories, I have a fine life regardless? I don't think this is something to worry about at 7 weeks, on the basis that the hair type seems similar.

I don't have any alopecia stories. But DS had the wispiest, stringiest hair until he was about 2, and now aged 6 it's so unbelievably thick. I literally don't know anyone with thicker hair than him.
Which is no protection at all against alopecia, because it's an autoimmune condition, nothing to do with hair type.
Basically, your child will either develop alopecia or they won't - statistically it's most likely they wont - and there's nothing you can do to either predict or influence that.
The way your DD treats people, on the other hand, you do have influence over. Focus on that. (But not at 7 weeks old. Just enjoy her for now 🙂)

I think you need to ask a medical professional who can put your mind at rest by telling you that you're both being utterly ridiculous.

What are you going to achieve by worrying about the possibility of alopecia?